Patience and tolerance are core virtue for a lady in a relationship. That is true and commendable. But not with a toxic person or someone who feels they are too good for you.
I know two young lovers.
The guy lost his job about seven months ago, squats in the lady’s apartment; plays video games all day long, and hangs out with his friends every Friday night.
The lady?
Her business crashed two months ago because the financial burden got so heavy on her that they had to feed on the capital.
Every day she goes out hustling; washing people’s clothes and cleaning their apartments for money. She gets home and shares the money with this guy; wakes up each day down with backaches, takes analgesics just to feel better, and hits the road day after day.
“I know he does girls,” she said to me. “But the problem is, should I confront him, I don’t know how he will react. I love him. I don’t want to lose him.”
The relationship is toxic.
I see through her; she’s insecure. She’s in her early thirties and not too pretty. So she fears she might have a hard time finding a guy that might like her for how she looks terrifies her. Her toxic boyfriend senses this, feels he is too good for her and so takes advantage of it.
A high-value lady thinks differently
She loves and respects herself. She feels good in her skin, can spend time in her own company, and is not intimidated by the high standards she has set for herself and others who want a relationship with her.
Because of the respect that she has for her own value, she is not afraid to walk away from an intimate relationship with someone who does not reciprocate her love and care or a guy who feels he is too good for her.
In one word, a high-value lady knows her worth. When a relationship becomes toxic, a high-value lady walks away. As a sign of self-love and self-respect.
It is not love to stay with a toxic guy; with someone who intentionally mistreats you because he feels he’s too good for you.
You matter.
You’re far prettier than some toxic guy wants to make you feel; you have something to bring to the table: virtues, dreams, brains, teamwork spirit, creativity, and a strong will to succeed.
It takes a real guy to appreciate those resources; the ones who don’t see it are too shallow and childish to have a serious relationship with.
Stop being insecure. Think abundance. Real men are not in short supply. Walk away. And trust me, when you leave the wrong guy, you open the room for someone better to find you.
That’s what high-value women do.
They walk away when the relationship turns irredeemably toxic. And it brings them more respect and a better life experience.
To your success in relationships,
Cheers!
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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