Admitting Fault Is Not Abdication of Another’s Responsibility

SEPARATE THE ELEMENTS

“Someone else can accept the blame, another can admit responsibility and it still be your fault.” Christopher Knight Lopez, International Best-Selling Author.

ONE IN THE SAME

Many often combine separate elements. I see it especially when people determine blame. Children blame each other. Children also refuse to accept responsibility. It is always another person’s fault with a child. The one who performed the action is typically assigned blame, fault and responsibility.

These elements are not the same. Some adults act like children. If you are combining these elements remember that’s what children do.

WHAT IS BLAME

Blame is the person who accepts punishment or consequence. Blame has no other function. One can accept blame and be innocent of the charges laid against them. Accepting blame is often noble. When one is held guilty for a crime they did not commit, they accept the blame despite not being at fault.

WHAT IS FAULT

Fault is who commits an error in judgment. Inadvertent errors are labeled mistakes. The one who incorrectly judges an action and agrees to allow the action to take place is the one at fault. The fault does not always need to be assigned to the person performing the act. It is the one who authorizes the conduct, behavior or act who is at fault.

WHO IS RESPONSIBLE

Responsibility is often shared. Rarely is it separated. Sometimes it can be separate, but this is rare. Responsibility is assigned to the one who performs the conduct, behavior or act. If a person is instructed to perform conduct, behavior or acts which they do not know are wrong — typically there is no fault assigned to the offender.

An easy example of this is a member of the military who simply followed a superior’s orders. The subordinate enjoys the privilege of exercising limited accountability on fault, while accepting responsibility for their actions. The superior who gave the orders is typically the one held at fault. In this instance the superior is assigned the blame and the subordinate is counseled to avoid repeated mistakes.

ARE YOU UNFAIRLY DENYING PERSONAL ACCOUNTABILITY?

The subheading is structured as a question on purpose. Review any conflict within your interpersonal relationships.

Do you place the blame on your partner for something that is your fault?

Many do. Think about it. What behaviors have you judged permissible and now regret because of unanticipated consequences?

We see this in partners who permit marijuana use, alcohol use, or even encourage a job which demands time away from their family. In my personal case my spouse accepted my legal situation. Now I look to do a bid. The bid means the end of our relationship. It is not my fault, but it is my responsibility. Unfortunately, the blame will now rest on her because she must deal with the fall out alone. It equally hurts both of us but the reality is the end of this chapter in our relationship.

Initially people anticipate no problems. People who do this act in good faith. When problems arise people get hurt. The hurt people can forget the fault can reside with the one who was injured not the one who caused the injury. This does not mean the one who injures you has no responsibility. Nor does it mean they cannot accept blame. What one must never do is forget whose fault it is. It might be your fault.

The pain fault inflicts is a teacher. So, you must learn well. Avoid the suffering. You don’t need to continuously revisit the event. Simply revisit the lesson. The lesson is what should live in the present. The event should not. It is dead. Let the dead rest.

CLOSING VERSE

The Final Testament. The Holy Quran. Sura [64:11].”Nothing happens to you except in accordance with GOD’s will. Anyone who believes in GOD, He will guide his heart. GOD is fully aware of all things?”

IN CLOSING

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This article is meant to provoke thought — not argument. It’s a way of opening up the mind to alternative ideologies based on what one reads — not what one hears. The belief is personal and of course I respect everyone’s personal beliefs. I condemn no one for choosing whatever path — as clearly I mean to choose my own.

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1) The life of Christopher Knight Lopez a Professional Hustler turned International Best Seller and Published Author of “I Made It Then I Didn’t”.

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About Christopher: Christopher Knight Lopez is a Professional Hustler turned International Best Seller, Award Winner of the December 2024 prestigious International Impact Book Awards — a premier award program dedicated to celebrating and recognizing the exceptional work of authors around the globe and Published Author of “I Made It Then I Didn’t”. He is also a Co-Author with Kevin “The Shark” Harrington “Many Paths To Profit”. See more at www.christopherklopez.com.