Another Night Sitting on the Couch Not Talking With Your Spouse?

There’s a dent in our couch.
Looking directly at it, it’s the last cushion on the right. Near the arm rest.

This is THE preferred spot for my wife’s butt while we watch tv.

Dents happen when you sit on the couch in the same room with one another, but you aren’t really spending time with each other.

You’re sharing space, your butts are making dents, but the only thing your minds are doing are getting filled with the gobbledy-gook that the boob-toob is beaming in there.

The dents you make with your butt cheeks don’t do anything to help your marriage.

Have you connected any more with your spouse, if you’ve spent two hours on ‘The Mandalorian’, One Hour on ‘Cake Boss’ and, of course, the six and ten o’clock news?

Nope.
Mainly, you’ve frittered the night away.
(Cool. I actually used the word frittered.)

To be honest, this is my struggle

I get comfy in my dent.

I cuddle up with the chips and queso, kick off the shoes and throw my feet up on the ottoman.

But, wouldn’t you know it, it just feels empty at the end of the night.

Like I wasted away one whole evening — when we could have done something together.

What other dents could you make in your marriage?

Dents in the floors: You could take up dance lessons together or redesign a room in your house
Dents in your community: Why spend the time watching others while we could find an organization you can support and make a difference.
Dents in the time spent with the kids: They want our attention much more than that big screen does.
Dents in the finances: I’ll leave budgeting and dollars and cents to another writer — but still, we could make a dent there, don’t you think?
Dents in our health: Walk together, run together, bike together, go to the gym together. It gets you healthier, and you can spend time together.
Dents in our communication: Turn off the tube and learn something about your mate.
Dents in our sex life: Enough said!

Sure, there’s a time and place for everything.
If you’ve been making positive dents in your marriage and the world — by all means, take the night off, and make a dent in your couch.

But for the rest of us…we need to give the silver box on the wall a rest.

I’d write more, but ‘Ted Lasso’ is on.

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About Stu Gray

Stu created the Stupendous Marriage podcast with his wife Lisa in 2010. They’ve been encouraging challenging and inspiring married couples ever since. Stu coaches husbands (and wives) on how to reconnect and keep going in their marriage when times get tough.

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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