Question: What advise do you have on making resolutions? I always feel like I make the same stupid ones every year. How do you determine your goals for the new year?
Answer: I’m so glad that I’m both a masterful teacher and a humble student. There were times not so long ago when I was so empty on the inside that the only way to feel better was to grasp, seek and capture something on the outside for that momentary relief that was always fleeting. Once I grasped it I would never let it go, becoming a control freak and never feeling peace, empowerment or the joy of true creation.
Thank God and the Goddess for my courage and humility to always seek out coaches while being a coach, to help me with my backwards wiring and pass on my teachings to my clients. I was seeking safety and security on the outside in… which is exactly in my opinion what goal seeking is. We think that if we achieve or accomplish something on the outside, we’re going to feel better on the inside. That might be true for three or four seconds until the anxiety grips us and we freak out terrified we might lose what we just trapped! No problem… just pop another antidepressant. Really? This isn’t the solution.
The solution is to be that which we seek.
What does that really mean? Be the joy, be the love, be the peace, be the delight, be the gratitude, be the embodiment of the Presence, Grace, Oneness that we truly are. And from that place of fullness and wholeness… from delight… we ask, What would turn me on? Not that we need it to be good enough… Just because it would be fun!
So first I would gently request that you don’t call you yourself or your goals ‘stupid’… Self judgment just makes things worse. You’ve always been doing your best, yes?
Second I would ask how safe and secure do you feel in your body on the planet from day today? How peaceful and home and appreciated do you feel in the core of your being? If there’s a gap to close, then close it. Hire me or invest in one of my home study curriculums. Do the inner work required to heal any wounds in your heart so that you can be what I call a ‘noble bad ass.’
Sprinkles on top of the ice cream cone of shit… just don’t work 🙂
Next from that place of Home, choose what would delight you. Choose it like it’s already done. “Thank you that I have the most amazing soul shaking conscious relationship that both challenges and supports me in ways that my soul evolves with ease and grace.”
Then take actions as if it’s already done… Perhaps an intimacy coach like me, perhaps an online profile, perhaps joining meet up’s, perhaps just lifting your chin and engaging with women at the grocery store will be enough to start changing your reality.
Ask and it’s given… Your job is to close the gap with certainty and detachment.
This is WAY easier said than done in a world that invites you OUT of your happy place the minute you open FB.
So a great place to support you in feeling more present, confident and bad ass is my complementary training for men which you can download at no charge at www.GetHerToSayYes.com And any ladies reading can enjoy my complementary training for women found at www.AllanaPratt.com called Vulnerability is the New Sexy. It’s time that we women value our softness just as much as we value our strength, yes?
I can’t wait to hear how 2018 unfolds for you! I have your back, so glad that we’ve connected 🙂 Great love, Allana
p.s. Gentlemen…End the Fear of Rejection.
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Ladies…Be irresistible. Feel sacred. Attract him now.
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