Are You Texting too Much? (How to Text Him the Right Way)

It’s red hot when you see each other in person, but your texts are cooling down. You don’t seem to have anything to say. Is he losing interest in you, or are you simply texting too much?

Let’s start with a common relationship pattern. You get to know one other and go out a few times. You’re suddenly messaging continuously from daylight to night. You keep going out, sleeping together, and getting used to one other. Then the texts dwindle down, and when you do text, it’s less playful and fun than it was before.

What went wrong, exactly? Maybe you went a little too far?

Just how much texting is too much?

I wish I could tell you that every two days you should send one text that is exactly seventeen words long, but it isn’t that simple.

The fact that you’re reading this article suggests that something is wrong with the frequency with which you text or the content of your texts. Let’s dig deeper.

That is the one who starts and ends texting conversations?
Are you the one that always texts first?
Is it common for him to abruptly end a conversation or simply stop responding?
Are your texts much longer than his?

These are all signs that you’re texting excessively. This does not imply that he dislikes you or that he is attempting to distance himself from you. Many men simply do not enjoy having long text chats and prefer to talk in person.

Don’t take anything too seriously. However, take it slowly. You don’t want texting to turn into a hassle for you.

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It’s better to text too little than too much

Because he’s texting less, it’s a typical mistake to text more. If you try to grasp on closer to him when he pulls away, you’ll just discover him sliding through your fingers.

Don’t text for no reason Wait until you have something to say before reaching out if you’re afraid about your texts cooling off. The chats will be focused and purposeful if your texts have a clear purpose rather than merely “I miss you and I’m bored.”

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This means that instead of rambling, he’ll equate texting you with communication and enthusiasm.

Don’t have conversations over text that would work better in person

Long, in-depth discussions about complicated emotions don’t function well through text. Texting is supposed to be lighthearted, flirtatious, and enjoyable.

If you’re in a new relationship, you should prioritize gaining face time. You want to have shared experiences so that you may remember them for future interactions.

Text cannot be used to create memories. When you’re out in the world, you make memories and have experiences. This will bring you closer together in a way that emoticons can’t.

If you’re traveling a considerable distance, these restrictions don’t apply.

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So what is texting for?

Information is shared, plans are made, jokes are made, and flirting is done through texting. It works well in short exchanges rather than long back-and-forth conversations.

Allow him to miss you with that in mind.

One issue with texting is that it makes us feel as though we should always be in touch. Especially in the beginning of a relationship. It might breed animosity because we feel like we’re doing something wrong if we don’t respond, even if we’re busy.

Reduce your texting frequency to avoid this. Being a little unavailable will make him think of you more, and the talks you do have will be more meaningful.

When to worry

This isn’t good if he sends one-word responses or doesn’t respond for days at a time. That again, it could have nothing to do with your relationship and just indicate that you and your partner have quite different attitudes around texting.

That’s OK. If it genuinely bothers you, you should talk about it so you can establish a balance that works for both of you.

Take a step back before having a major talk about it if it only affects you because it makes you feel uneasy. Instead of increasing your texting, focus on spending more quality time with him, and I guarantee you’ll get greater outcomes and less misunderstandings.

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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