Many men spend a whole lifetime having sex that is superficial or one dimensional, missing out on emotional and energetic levels of pleasure, and the exponential experience of feeling your partner’s pleasure in your body, in addition to your own. Today’s Man Alive guest talks about how to get beyond this, to go where most men don’t know they can go in intimacy and sexuality.
Show notes
Many men spend a whole lifetime in the range of sex I’d call superficial. This kind of sex isn’t bad or wrong. It can even be pleasurable. But, as I write in Honest Sex, it is one dimensional, rather than the four dimensional sex that is possible for you.
1-D sex tends to mainly be physical in nature. While it can be pleasurable, it doesn’t involve the emotional or energetic levels of pleasure. And it doesn’t involve the exponential experience of feeling your partner’s pleasure in your body, in addition to your own.
Today’s Man Alive podcast guest, Andrew Daniel, is the creator and director of the Cinesomatic School of Development, and the author of Awaken to Your True Self: Why You’re Still Stuck and How to Break Through. He bridges ancient methodology with modern cinematic technology to create embodied transformation for his clients. Andrew helps his clients discover how to have intimacy that goes way beyond the superficial.
In our rich conversation we discussed…
- Where most men don’t know they can go in intimacy and sexuality
- The benefits of expanding beyond penetrating, to being penetrable as well (even if it’s just energetic)
- What “holding space” for a woman is, and how it strengthens attraction and connection
- Why the things you’d rather not feel are the gateway to being closer to your partner
- The intimacy that happens when we neither fix nor indulge, rescue nor be rescued
Connect with Andrew
Andrew Daniel is an award-winning and international bestselling author and director at the Center for Cinesomatic Development. His Cinesomatics® workshops are held internationally from New York to London, Tuscany to Switzerland—helping professionals see the elusive patterns that hold them back. This methodology leads the world in cinematic movement diagnostics and advanced intuition development integrating approaches from embodiment, shadow work, therapy, and spirituality. His book, Awaken to Your True Self, is a gold Nautilus Book Awards recipient and #1 Amazon bestseller in the US & UK. His first teaching work, Holistic Sex (Mindvalley, 2014), provided the world with a new paradigm to bridge the divide between sexuality, spirituality, and the sexes. Andrew is also an advisor for the Alan Watts Organization.
Check out Honest Sex, a new book author Shana James.
Some say we are outgrowing marriage as a culture. However, the problem that author Shana James regularly sees as a relationship coach—and through her own divorce—is that many of us have not matured enough to create the emotionally-connected, sexually-satisfying relationships we long for.
Honest Sex teaches us what kind of honesty is effective for creating closeness, what sex actually is (rather than what we’ve been taught), and how to communicate desires and upsets to create more intimacy. By examining new ways to sustain connection with a partner, author Shana James illuminates a framework for relationships to start strong and get more intimate and exciting over time.
James is the creator and host of the Man Alive podcast and has a TEDx Talk, “What 1,000 Men’s Tears Reveal About the Crisis Between Men and Women.” As a relationship coach for 20 years, she humbly discovered the causes of disconnection and distrust in relationships, as well as how to build trust and keep passion alive. Her first book, Power and Pleasure: A Man’s Guide to Becoming a Confident and Satisfied Lover and Leader, supports men to be fulfilled in love and work. In this book, written for all genders, she uses her Master’s in psychology, DISC, and Positive Intelligence certifications to guide readers to create more honest and passionate romantic relationships.
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Previously Published on shanajamescoaching.com
