Calling in 'The One': How to Become and Attract a Soul-Aligned Partner (with Risa Gaull)

In this episode of Practicing Love, I sit down with Self-Love & Relationship Coach Risa Gaull, who reminds us of a powerful truth: you are the love you seek.

Calling in “The One”: How to Become and Attract a Soul-Aligned Partner: Show Notes

I’ve been focusing on those who are finding love recently, as I’m working on my Honest Dating manual, but whether you’re looking for love, or rekindling love, the foundations are the same.

If you’re dating and it feels hard to find love, it’s not because you’re doing it wrong, but most people were taught to look outside yourself for what can only come from within. This happens in long-term relationships too.

In today’s podcast episode, I sat down with Risa Gaull, a Self-Love & Relationship coach who reminds you that you are the love you seek. Her work beautifully aligns with the heart of Honest Dating and Honest Sex.

In our conversation, we explore what it truly takes to call in a soul-aligned partner — and not by fixing yourself, performing, or waiting to be chosen, but by reconnecting with your true self beneath wounds, stories, and survival strategies.

We talk about:

How to know when you’re dating from your wounded self rather than your aligned self
The body-based and emotional signs that tell you when you’re out of alignment
Why making a partner your source of validation creates anxiety and resentment
How self-compassion (not self-improvement) is the doorway to real intimacy
What changes when you stop needing someone else to be different for you to feel good

This episode is especially for you if you’ve done “all the work,” understand relationships intellectually, but still find yourself feeling anxious, unsure, or disconnected as you’re dating. Calling in love isn’t just about the right person. It’s about coming home to yourself so you can co-create something beautiful together.

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Bio:

Risa Gaull is a Self-Love & Relationship Coach who’s here to remind you that you are the love you seek. For the past decade, she’s been helping women—whether they’re single or feeling unsatisfied with their relationship—create the healthy, soul-aligned love they truly want. She’s an award-winning speaker and creator of the programs, Get Soulmate Ready and Freedom from Codependency: The Self-Love Solution. Risa has a real gift for helping women break free from old patterns, reconnect with their worth, and step into the confident, grounded version of themselves who can finally experience the love they’ve always wanted.

Previously Published on Shana James Coaching

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