Can’t Find Any Guys You’re Actually Attracted to? Here’s Why
“I can’t find a guy who I consider relationship-worthy for me. Maybe I’m destined to be alone...” Matthew Hussey, Get the Guy, once again to the rescue.
I wanted to get out into the world for this video and make something for everyone out there who says they never meet anyone they actually like or they never meet anyone who’s actually relationship potential.
If you find yourself perpetually in a place where you’re scrolling through hundreds and hundreds of people on a dating app and you never find anyone you’re attracted to or you go out night after night and never see anyone who’s relationship potential then there might be a reason for that.
Have you ever spent an entire night doing this—think of yourself when you’re picking a movie on Netflix—the way we mindlessly browse through movies and we talk about how there’s nothing good—on a platform with thousands and thousands of options. And we get to a point where we’ve been browsing for 20 minutes or 30 minutes and we still haven’t found anything and the only thing we have to go by is a picture on a screen and a brief description of what it is. Then we superficially trash everything that comes along: “I don’t feel like that, I don’t feel like that I don’t feel like that”—and yet there’s so many good movies. The way to enjoy a movie night is to watch a movie, not to spend our whole lives circling through thousands of movies.
And when it comes to people, I think that we have to be a little less superficial, a little less transactional a little less judgy on first sight of whether someone is our type or relationship potential and actually start getting interested in people. Because people become more interesting when we get more interested in them.
We have to go about life like there are plenty of interesting people in it. And we’re gonna get to know them. And by getting to know people and showing curiosity it’s far more likely that we’ll find someone that surprises us. Someone who has an interesting story, someone who has an outlook on life that is particularly appealing to us. I know (and you probably know) that if someone were to come up to you or me and not be interested in us—we’d be the least interesting people on earth. But when people actually start to ask us interesting questions and dig a little deeper and take the time to get to know us we start to blossom. We start to become more interesting.
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Let’s start doing that for other people. Be interested in them. My question for you today—Was there a time when someone showed an extra level of interest in you that allowed your most interesting side to come out? Tell me that story in the comments.
Remember: People become more interesting when we get more interested in them.
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Relationship Expert Matthew Hussey
Matthew Hussey is the world’s leading dating expert for women.
For the past 8 years he has coached millions of women around the world to help them get the love lives of their dreams.
He is a New York Times bestselling author, he has his own national radio show, he’s been given his own television show, Rachael Ray, Katie Couric, Ryan Seacrest, Meredith Vieira, Elvis Duran, Match.com and many others frequently invite him to share his advice.
Matthew is also a monthly relationship advice columnist for Cosmopolitan Magazine and the dating expert on ABC’s digital series What To Text Him Back.
He’s had the privilege of working with royalties and celebrities like Christina Aguilera and Eva Longoria. He’s also coached over 100,000 women in his live seminars and his training videos have reached over 217,000,000 women around the world.
