Being comfortable is one of the toughest things to hang on to in life. It feels great, but always seems to slip away.
I know as you go through the days, it feels like more discomfort than anything. Well, that’s life.
My discomfort is work.
I’ve struggled with keeping jobs, not because I don’t excel, because I don’t believe in myself. The discomfort of anxiety becomes so intense that I feel paralyzed and can’t go on. Then I leave and feel comfortable again.
It was a vicious cycle that went on for 5 freakin’ years! It would land me in deep depressions and feelings of worthlessness.
Then, out of nowhere, I decided to push back. I wasn’t going to be a feather in the wind any longer, blowing wherever my emotions took me.
I started a job about 8 months ago and wanted to quit many times. However, with my support system, who I leaned on, wouldn’t let me go out so easy.
I went through periods of thinking I couldn’t do it (even though consistently praised by management) and thought it would be easier to just leave. Again.
After fighting like hell I broke through the wall that was always to sturdy to crack in the past. I made it 6 months.
All of a sudden a pressure was lifted.
I CAN do it!
Work started to feel comfortable! I was confused. Sure, I was happy as all hell, but mostly confused.
What it boiled down to was simple. I had a pain threshold, I couldn’t bear. However, every time I quit, it was just a week away from the comfort.
The message I’m trying to put forth is this. If you have something worth fighting for, go for it!
It’s going to SUCK and feel overwhelming, but we have a certain amount of pain we need to get through before things start to settle.
It is beyond worth it to get to this point because it feels amazing. I never thought in my wildest dreams I would have this feeling. The thing I dreaded most was work.
Now, I almost look forward to it!
Realizing I have a level of control over my life was, well, life-changing. I always felt trapped in my ways and that I’d never be able to be a functioning adult.
Here I am, 8 months later making a living and feeling on top of the world!
Another message from this post is this:
Don’t allow yourself to give you limits on what you can and cannot do!
This is where I became stuck! I thought, “this is just the way I am.”
We are all far stronger than we give ourselves credit. There are so many things we can accomplish!
All we need to do is battle through the discomfort that life throws at us, then break through.
Believe me, I know it’s hard! And after struggling for the better part of my 20’s I can relate. However, the strength within is so powerful. I always would quit before the ultimate breakthrough!
Keep in mind that YOU are strong, and YOU are worthy! We are all worthy of the life we want to live!
Keep trucking and show yourself how truly awe-inspiring your inner strength is!
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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