This comment is from Theorema Egregium on the post “The Fatal Flaws of Pick-Up (And a Promising Alternative)”
For some reason or other my perception of beauty has always been different from that of the men (and women) around me. I remember clearly how when I was in school people gave me flak for finding the wrong assistant teacher attractive (i.e. not the one everybody else found attractive). On a Machiavellian level I’m kind of glad about that because it gives me less competition in dating. My ex-gf swore I had been the first man ever to take notice of her.
Interestingly I believe that when you ask heterosexual women which women they find attractive they will usually chose someone very traditional looking – that polished Hollywood look where I have honest trouble telling people apart sometimes. It’s like, in lack of natural sexual attraction to other women, their yard stick to judge female beauty is purely what society taught them, which is naturally traditional. I think it’s the same when men judge men.
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