While there are overlaps, communicating as a couple is different from communicating at work or with family. In a couple, in addition to building trust and respect, you have to help someone feel so safe with you that they will be vulnerable with their emotions and their body! Today’s guest shares the most important communication skills for couples to keep their relationship connected, that also work in the dating phase.
Communicating as a Couple to Feel More Connected: Show Notes
It’s not a guess that, at some point, you’ve felt misunderstood by someone you love. Everyone has!
When we consider how to feel heard and connected in a romantic relationship, there are many layers. Communication is one of the skills that weaves through all of the layers.
It is often like peeling an onion. As soon as one layer is peeled, another is revealed. And more of communication is non-verbal than many people realize.
Beyond the actual words you speak, and when you speak them, it’s important to recognize some of the other layers, including:
- Whether you are able to see someone else’s perspective as valid
- Your capacity to speak with compassion, and without blame or shame
- Your ability to listen, fully, until someone feels understood
- Your tone, and whether you are holding on to negative beliefs about your partner
- Whether you’re trying to prove something about yourself, and thus defending that
- How you relate to your fear of being rejected or abandoned
Today’s Practicing Love podcast guest, Robyn Smith, is an award-winning speaker, and master trauma, communication, and relationship coach for women. She’s helped thousands transform frustration into fulfillment by cultivating deeper, more conscious, and loving connections. She also walks her talk in her 23 year marriage!
On today’s podcast about communicating as a couple we discussed…
- When to accept differences vs see them as dealbreakers
- How to speak your mind without making the person you love wrong
- What you can replace defensiveness with, to reduce upset and hurt
- Listening deeper than the surface words your partner uses
- Why effective communication is the cornerstone to navigating relationship challenges
- How seeing patterns in communication helps breaks cycles of conflict
- The importance of recognizing our old wounds, and the reactions they cause us to have
This is a great opportunity to learn from someone I trust, who really understands what it takes to make a relationship thrive, even in challenging times.
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Robyn Smith is an award-winning speaker and master trauma, communication, and relationship coach for women. Founder of the Rock Your Relationship movement, she’s helped thousands transform frustration into fulfillment by cultivating deeper, more conscious, and loving connections. With her thriving 23-year marriage as inspiration, Robyn combines practical relationship strategies with emotional healing to create lasting change. Her approach goes beyond communication, reshaping how women experience love and connection. As a certified master trauma coach, she specializes in helping clients break free from trauma and unhealthy patterns, restoring harmony within relationships and within themselves.
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Previously Published on Shana James Coaching
