Dear Boyfriend,
I think you should marry me.
And I know that you know it, too.
The truth is that you’re scared and it makes sense. Your mom and dad have five divorces between them. You watched marriages break. You watched marriages burn.
You want a guarantee that ours will be unbreakable. Fireproof.
I wish I could give you that.
I can’t tell you that we won’t break. I can’t tell you we won’t burn. And I can’t tell you that we won’t hate each other sometimes.
But I can tell you that you should marry me anyway.
And by the end of this piece, you’ll believe it, too.
You should marry me because you love me. And I love you.
Love is one of the best and most flawed reasons to get married.
You need love for a good marriage, but also, love makes you blind and all that. Passion dies. There’s a fine line believe love and hate.
But love can heal, too.
Love can be the exact glue that you need to stick together.
I think you should marry me because I’m the love of your life.
Remember when you told me for the first time? We were drunk and playing in the water at the beach.
You smiled at me. And I told you, “Just admit it, already.”
“Admit what?” you asked me.
“That you love me.”
And you laughed and said, “Of course I love you.”
So, marry me. Because, of course, I love you.
You should marry me because I’m your best friend.
I hope you love me forever and want to f*ck me forever.
But even if you don’t, and on the days when you won’t, we are still best friends.
You are the person I want to spend my worst days with.
It is easy to be someone’s person when you are having a good day. There’s no work involved. And while I want to spend my best days with you, I think it’s even better that I want to spend my worst days with you.
I want your worst days, too.
When you have your worst days, I swoop in like Superman. The days when you don’t feel good enough. The days when you’re pissed off. I know what to do.
I love that I know what to do.
When we’re strung out and exhausted, you know how to make me laugh. I love just sitting with you and watching TV after a long day of work. That’s what matters.
So be my best friend, forever and ever.
You should marry me because I’m a great partner.
I’ll be honest: you do most of the housework.
But I intend to be a real money maker, my friend. I mean, look how much I have made from writing alone this year. I gave myself a 15% raise!
I have big dreams for us. And I have the proof that I turn those dreams into dollars.
I am your biggest cheerleader.
There is no dream too crazy that you can’t tell me. I believe you can do anything. If you want to start a podcast, hell, I’ll buy you the equipment.
We complement each other.
I’m pure optimism and you are the anchor that keeps me grounded in reality.
I’ll take care of you when you get old. I’ll hold your hand in the hospital. I’ll make sure you take your medicine. I know… that’s not glamorous, but it’s life. And I’ll love you all the way through it.
So marry me. Because we take care of each other.
You should marry me even if we don’t know what is going to happen.
I know it’s a huge decision. Believe me, I get scared, too.
But I also know that anything can happen at any time. I’ve watched my dad through cancer. I’ve watched the world fade into a pandemic. I’ve watched family members die and friends lose the loves of their lives.
I want to marry you even if I don’t know what happens.
I want to marry you because you’re the best thing.
I want to marry you because nothing is promised to me.
So, marry me. Because I want to live like I have forever with you, even if I don’t.
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This post was previously published on Medium.com.
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