A Letter Filled With Thoughts From Parents to Their Future Children
No one can predict the future. Many times we really wish we could. As parents we do the best we can with what we have. We hope when we have more or know more we can be more but even then sometimes that doesn’t happen. Looking back, we often wonder what we would have done differenty. We wonder what we would do the same. After speaking with several parents the following is summation of joy, pain, sorrow and hope for tomorrow for all of our children.
Dear Future Son,
I wish I could know now what the world would be like the time you’re 14. I wish I’d know about all of the terrorism that would plageue the country causing fear in so many Americans. I wish could know about the amount of racism, sexism, homophobia, gender discrimination and even islamophobia that will paralyze people and cause so many people to treat each other so badly simply because of their race, gender or sexual orientation.
You know life is never something you can predict son, but I wish I could figure out some things in advance. I wonder, would we as parents choose to have any children at all I often ask myself if we knew what the future held? I certainly wish I’d of know that you’ll probably end up a product of an ugly divorce where we will fight over you like a toy on the playground. I wish have a crystal ball to tell me about fatherlessness becoming such a major problem while motherlessness climbs the statistical chart steadily as well. Can I tell yo uson, I also wish I’d know you will be born into a world where police brutality is an every day issue but mistreatment of our good police is an issue as well. And could you imagine if I knew that diseases like HIV, Cancer, Lupus, Alzheimers and more would continue to grow day after day and no matter how many drugs they came up with to make life longer they still wouldn’t have a cure? Oh and son, how about the television? I sure wish I’d of know about how many shows would come television on even during family hours filled with violence, sex, pedophilia, crime and extortion that could potentially desensitize you to the need for basic moral compassion towards others. I also wish I’d know that texting with it’s quick way of communicating would become a primary means of communication for some and there would be people would forget how to speak in complete sentences or get in arguments because words on a screen have no feeling or inflection.
I know it might seem bleak with all that I’m saying to you son to you son; however, I do believe there is a silver lining. I know there will be people like me who will love their children with all their heart. I know there will be charities to help people with everything from life-threatening food allergies to homelessness, cancer survival and more live the happiest life they can despite their circumstances. In the future I see, there will be opportunities for people to love and be with whomever makes them happy regardless of race, economic or life status. I also know there will be music by amazingly talented artists that is capable of filling the air with joy to make you dance until your sadness goes away. And even when both parents disagree over what’s best for children, I know that it will really only be because they will love them so deeply inside just as I love you that no other love will ever compare.
My heart is filled with hope son. You are that hope. You are that one spark in 7 million that could be the difference to make all of the ugly things that could happen in world become beautiful instead. So, my future son, on this day I write to you having the faith that you are the future.
Your future parent
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