Some things, do it occasionally, there’s nothing wrong with it. But once it becomes a habit, it can make people feel very uncomfortable.
Two people need to get along well. No matter how good the relationship between two people is, three things must be done less, otherwise, it is easy to destroy the relationship.
01 Check his phone frequently
Some people say that two people who love each other are very candid with each other.
Something as private as a mobile phone can be viewed casually without any defense.
This is indeed true, people who love each other will not let each other down, so there are no shameful secrets in the mobile phone.
But that doesn’t mean that two people can constantly check each other’s phones.
As the old saying goes, everything must be learned in moderation.
Some things, once in a while, are not wrong, but once they become a habit, they can make people feel very uncomfortable.
You can take a look at his phone every once in a while, and once you use it, he won’t think there is any problem.
But if you check his phone every day, just like a routine check, he will feel that you don’t even have the most basic trust in him.
Once such a crisis of confidence arises, there will undoubtedly be cracks in the relationship.
02 Frequent rejection of partner’s enthusiasm
Two people have been together for a long time, and sometimes they do inadvertently ignore each other’s enthusiasm.
For example, he cares about daily life, advises you to eat less unhealthy things, and advises you not to stay up late and go to bed earlier.
His enthusiasm is out of concern for you, but if you listen to it a lot, it will inevitably feel a little annoying sometimes.
So you will feel disrespectful, or in turn, complain a few words to him.
For another example, he wants to get close to you and make out with you, but you may be in a bad mood or busy with other things, so you push him away impatiently.
This kind of behavior, occasionally, will not make people have too many thoughts.
But to do it more often is sure to make you feel more and more lost.
When two people are together, enthusiasm is a very precious thing.
Be sure to cherish it, instead of repeatedly rejecting each other.
Doing that will only hurt him and hurt his feelings.
03 Often poking each other’s sore spots
It was said of the ancients that good medicine tastes bitter to the mouth, but unpleasant advice is good for action.
Indeed, good words are not pleasant. Many times, to persuade a person, we will inevitably say some things that he does not like to hear.
But in any case, we can’t poke at other people’s sore spots, we can only talk about things, and should not escalate to personal attacks.
Between partners, it is even more necessary to grasp this proportion.
I believe that many people have good intentions and want to inspire each other, but when they get excited, they will be very hurtful when they say it.
There is only a simple scolding left, and there is no hint of encouragement at all.
People always say that love is a process of mutual healing.
When two people are together, the shortcomings of each other will be completely exposed in front of each other.
And good love is to encourage each other and make progress together.
On the contrary, bad love is mutual disgust, and even rises to a life attack.
Don’t poke at each other’s sore spots in the name of “for your good”, it’s hurtful.
Love will change little by little with time.
When two people are together, many small details need to be paid attention to, and don’t just do things according to your preferences.
Only by working hard will the relationship become better and better.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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