No matter what life throws at you, or what others may say, you are valuable.
There have been times in my life when my poor choices have made me feel less valuable as a person. I want you to know there is purpose in the hard times. Nothing you experience in life is meant to make you less valuable. In fact, I believe difficult circumstances empower you to become a better version of yourself.
Here are a few insights to remind you that your worth is not contingent on your circumstances.
Circumstances change, but your worth does not.
You are just as valuable today as you were yesterday, and as you will be tomorrow. You were put on this earth for a purpose and a reason. No matter what you were told, you are a valuable piece of the puzzle.
Circumstances do not define you.
There have been times in my life where my circumstances were not very attractive. I was making bad decisions and my circumstances were proof of my choices. However, I still had value in the worst of times. Even when I did not make good decisions there was purpose in my pain. I can now use my experience to help others and that gave my pain purpose during the process and gives it purpose after the process.
When circumstances are out of your control, your value remains constant.
There were times my circumstances were not of my own choosing. I may not have purposely put myself in a difficult place, but rather I was dropped into it. Despite the poor choices of others that landed me in difficult times, I was no less valuable. I still had choices. I still could choose to fight my way out and I still had great purpose inside of that particular situation and outside of it.
So many times in life we equate our value to our circumstances. I can remember a time when I made poor relationship choices that ultimately lead me to a divorce. There were other people who made me feel like my worth was changed due to my circumstances. That is when I had a choice to make. I could either allow other’s to define my worth or I could stand on the truth.
The truth is that we are all valuable. The world will tell you many lies. My divorce may have been a series of poor decisions on my part, but it was not the truth of who I was or the definition of my value. Be sure to listen intently for the whispers of truth and do not allow that truth to be drowned out by the lies that the world will scream at you. I am valuable despite my circumstances, and so are you.
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