Do you remember the movie Ferris Bueller’s Day Off?
It was so great when Ferris went over to Cameron’s house and just said, “I think today we’re going to take a day off.” They stole Cameron’s dad’s car and basically spent the day driving like maniacs through Chicago and having an incredible time.
Have you ever been on a Ferris Bueller date? Instead of planning your date so precisely – rather than saying, “well, we need to meet for dinner at 8:00 and then have a drink at 9:30 and then afterwards…” – no! Be spontaneous!
Have a Ferris Bueller date. Go out and have a purely spontaneous and fun day. Start off with something like taking a drive into the country. Pick a random exit to get off on – any exit – and from that exit find the Main Street, find a cool restaurant to eat at, and find some cool shops. Then get back into the car and on the interstate and do it again! Pick another random exit. We can call it ‘random exiting.’
If you’re in a city, walk around town, and whenever your date says ‘left’ or ‘right’ go down a different block. You’ll find different stores, cafes – whatever it might be.
If you live out in the country, you can do the same exact thing. Go for a drive, get off at a random exit and explore a new town.
The most important thing is to have a Ferris Bueller date – where you just go and get lost with each other and have a good time. Do this instead of having everything so rigid and planned, and instead of being so uptight.
Instead of worrying about what to do and when to do it, why don’t you just be spontaneous?
Do you ever go to rest stops and people watch? You can guess where all of the people are going to and coming from. I used to love doing that on a date. We would sit there and create all these back-stories for these families and other travelers. This also teaches you how to people watch and observe.
Another fun thing to do is to go and watch planes take off, and just guess where they are heading. You’ll never really know – but who cares? That’s what is fun. Or go to the airport and just watch everyone stress out for an hour and a half.
There are lots of fun things to do. Get creative and spontaneous. Make it your own Ferris Bueller date!
This post was previously published on www.davidwygant.com and is republished here with permission from the author.
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