I’ve made so many mistakes in adultery.
SO MANY.
That’s why I’m writing this list.
Five Tips To Design The Affair You Really Want:
1. What do you want?
What is your ideal affair? What are your needs? Know what you want. And it’s not about looks or something similarly shallow. It’s more about what type of adulterous relationship you need. Friends with benefits? A real emotional connection? Long distance? Online only?
Know thyself like Shakespeare. It’s key to all of this.
Know your limitations. Know your time parameters, and be truthful about what you can offer and what you can receive.
2. Communicate it clearly in the beginning.
Once you know what you want, be sure to articulate it clearly to a potential lover. So many of us in our searches don’t tell people what we really want. That’s a big mistake. He or she has to know. You need to be on the same page.
If not, you will soon break apart, with one of you wanting more than the other.
3. Do not settle.
This one is tough. You will find men and women who are somewhat okay. But they won’t be enough. You won’t be happy if your needs aren’t met.
It’s hard, but don’t settle for less than you need.
It will only end in frustration in your affair. That won’t end well for anyone.
4. Check in frequently.
Your affair is going to evolve. Sometimes, it will be everything you want; other times, it may miss the mark. That’s normal. No one is perfect. But check in as often as possible and let your lover know when things are veering off course.
Communication is the key to a successful affair.
5. Be grateful.
Force yourself to be grateful for the affair you have. It is both fragile and ephemeral. Don’t take your affair partner for granted.
Too many of us in this “lifestyle” forget how difficult it is to find a good lover. Remember the endless looking? The pain of rejection? The missed connections? It takes serious effort to connect with someone.
Don’t get complacent.
Good lovers must be appreciated.
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It’s so simple. Know what you want and wait for the right person and the right affair.
Use my five tips to get the affair you really want.
And avoid the pain of choosing the wrong lover.
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