How a Regular Guy Can Thrive in the Modern Dating World

It’s tough out there as a regular guy. Dating is harder than ever. Loneliness is the new normal. It can feel like women don’t value you at all.

But I promise it’s still possible for average men not only to land a date, but to thrive in modern dating.

In my role as a dating coach, I’ve dealt with countless men who couldn’t land one date with a Plain Jane.

Most of them turned things around by making one change to their dating strategy.

Why ‘Offline Dating’ Is So Powerful

It’s so uncommon for young men to shoot their shots with women in the real world these days.

Sure, some might try something when they’re wasted in a bar or a nightclub.

But few women are being swept off their feet by a gentleman who happens to lock eyes with them.

That’s because barely any men no know how to do this in a smooth and charming way.

If you can learn to do this, you can make a lasting emotional impact on women.

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My Story

When I first started learning this skill, I was a 5’9” bald guy who’d just started a below-average job in a new city.

I could barely attract one match on Tinder — and no romantic opportunities were coming through my social circle. I was an unremarkable guy with no women in my life.

But, after learning how to smoothly approach women on the busy streets of London, I could show off my remarkable personality.

I wasn’t only putting myself to the front of the queue for a woman’s attention, I was quickly showcasing my attractive qualities.

I was brave, I was fun, I was ambitious enough to talk to her in the real world.

It was easier to build deep connections in real life than from behind a phone screen, and this allowed me to date women who wouldn’t think twice about swiping left on my Tinder profile.

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Looks Aren’t As Important As You Think

Your appearance is crucial to succeeding in online dating because that’s all women have to judge you. But personality is incredibly important to women too. Offline dating allows you to show off yours and give yourself the edge over a woman’s online matches.

Women want to know they’ll have fun on a date, and that they can trust you to look after them. An enjoyable face-to-face interaction allows them to feel confident that will happen.

Often, they’ll feel more excited to date you in this situation rather than taking a risk on the stud in their Tinder DMs.

If neither of you are busy when you approach her, you can whisk her away for a spontaneous date. This is the perfect opportunity to build a lasting connection on the spot.

I’ve managed to make this happen countless times over the last decade, even as I got older and balder.

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The Odds Are Stacked Against Men On Dating Apps

Dating apps market themselves as the quick and easy way to create a romance with beautiful women.

In reality, they stack the odds against average men in many subtle ways.

Even plain women are overwhelmed with attention from hundreds of dudes on these apps. Your chances of standing out are nearly impossible unless you look better than most of your competition. Your photos are the only weapon you can use to win a woman’s attention.

Let’s say you’re a good-looking guy with kick-ass photos. You still have to overcome the algorithms that would rather you upgraded to a paid membership than found everlasting love.

By choosing to meet women in the real world, you put your romantic destiny back into your own hands.

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Perhaps You’ve Tried Approaching Women And It Didn’t Work?

The best thing about approaching women in the real world is that it’s a skill.

It can be developed and improved just like any other skill. The more you practice, the better you get, the more success you’ll experience.

Perhaps you approached a handful of women this year and it didn’t work. That doesn’t mean offline dating is impossible for you.

My new book ‘Offline Dating’ features tried-and-tested strategies for men who want to seduce women wherever they meet them. You’ll learn proven steps for meeting women in bars, nightclubs, busy streets, malls, cafes, parks, beaches, gyms and more.

The book also includes detailed guidance for building your confidence, understanding female psychology, building lasting relationships and more.

It has all the knowledge I consumed to become an ordinary guy with an extraordinary dating life. To learn more about the book, click here or watch the video below.

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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