How to Find a Golden Retriever Boyfriend

Here’s your guide on where to find your own Travis Kelce IRL.

Modern dating can be a nightmare for women. Ghosting is more common than commitment, and we’re all swiping through a sea of emotionally unavailable men who string us along in situationships when all we want is love.

It’s no surprise that we’re all seeking a certain type of guy: a Golden Retriever boyfriend.

We all know the type (even if we’ve never actually dated one). He’s loyal, loving, and funny. He’s always ready to go on an adventure. He’s madly in love with you. He plans dates. He calls when he’s supposed to. He texts you “good morning” and “good every day. He’s proud of all your accomplishments.

Basically, he’s Travis Kelce 2.0. He loves Taylor Swift loudly and proudly. He’s her biggest cheerleader. That is the type of man the rest of us want.

The problem is, where do we find these highly sought-after men? They may be rare gems, but they do exist. Where do we find them?

Here are some tips on how to find a Golden Retriever boyfriend in the wild.

Switch Up Where You’re Looking For Love

Let’s be honest: Golden Retriever boyfriends aren’t going to be at the clubs or sending you Tinder messages at 2 a.m.. Think about good guy behavior. You’re more likely to find a good guy volunteering at a soup kitchen, coaching a boy’s softball team, grabbing his Starbucks order or hanging out at a local bookstore.

This isn’t to say he can’t ever be found at a bar. He might meet his friends for trivia night or a football game. But on the weekends, he’s much more likely to be found at the local dog park, hitting up a local concert or festival, visiting his grandmother at the nursing home, or supporting local businesses at the farmer’s market.

Rethink Your Dating App Strategy

Paying more attention to someone’s dating app bio can go a long way. The Golden Retriever boyfriend probably has photos with his nieces or nephews or his pets. His profile might mention family or cooking. He’s likely to have pictures of wholesome activities or hobbies, such as hiking or bike riding.

When you match with a guy, pay attention to how he communicates with you. A Golden Retriever boyfriend is going to seem genuinely curious about your own life and interests. He’ll be more interested in asking you questions than talking about himself. Your efforts will feel reciprocated from the get-go.

Keep in mind that love bombers can display some of the same behavior early on. The difference is that a true Golden Retriever boyfriend will remain consistent and doesn’t want praise for his efforts.

Be a Golden Retriever Girlfriend

You should never change who you are to find love. But think about implementing some of the behaviors that Golden Retriever boyfriends go crazy for! Communicating your wants and needs, being emotionally vulnerable, showing affection, showing (and matching) kindness, and committing on the same level are all habits that Golden Retriever boyfriends love!

The Bottom Line

The Golden Retriever boyfriend is real, and it’s possible to find him. Making a few adjustments to where you look for love and how you date can help this type of guy.

One thing is for sure: If you find a Golden Retriever boyfriend, you’ll know — and you definitely won’t want to let him go!

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This post was previously published on medium.com.