It’s the ultimate bittersweet romantic moment.
You met a great woman, had an amazing night together and she ended up in your bed.
Now, you’re excited about doing it again and again.
But there’s just one problem…
She isn’t returning your texts or calls. You’ve been ghosted already. Just when it seems like you’ve finally found a good connection, you’re back to being alone.
In many ways, this is worse than getting instantly blown out!
It certainly can make you question yourself more. All that effort for just a one-time thing…
This guide will help you to stop getting into this situation and start ensuring your hook-ups remain hooked on you.
Whether you’re looking for a serious relationship or a friend-with-benefits, these moves will help inspire your romantic interests to stick around.
1. Make Her Orgasm
Let’s be honest. This is probably where you went wrong.
She liked you enough to sleep with you. She slept with you. And now she’s not returning your calls??? Most signs point to bad sex.
If the sex was good, a lot of women would come back no matter what else happened. Bad sex can be awkward enough for some women to write you off.
To turn your hook-ups into repeat customers, it really helps to focus on their pleasure. Ask what’s the best way to make them orgasm or learn a few reliable tricks of your own.
2. Get To Know Each Other
Kicking a woman out of bed isn’t the move if you want to sleep together again.
You’re better off lying and enjoying the post-orgasm bliss together. This can be your chance to get to know each other on a deeper level. Hey, if you met this woman drunk at a club, you might not even remember each other’s names yet.
The more this woman knows the real you, the more comfortable she’ll be about the idea of hanging out more than once.
3. Get Some Food Together
If you just returned from the restaurant, this might not be necessary.
However, if you were knocking back cocktails at the bar, there’s every chance that you’re both craving some sustenance.
Offer to buy her some food or cook her something.
This shows you’re not just a stud in the bedroom, you also care enough to treat her to a home-made hamburger and fries.
4. Text Her The Next Day
I understand the advice that suggests waiting more than 24 hours to text someone after a first date.
But, after you had sex for the first time, ALWAYS text her the next day.
This spares her from feeling like a hussy who jumped into bed with you too quickly. It’s the least you can do after she gave you such a great evening.
A short note saying you had a great time is all that’s needed.
5. Add Her On Instagram
This helps her get to know you on a deeper level and (hopefully) realize you’re a man worth seeing again.
When she adds you on Instagram, your content will regularly pop up on her feed and she’ll be reminded of how awesome you are. She might even reach out to you first by replying to your stories or posts.
6. Don’t Bombard Her With Texts
If you want to sleep with a woman more than once, it’s important to make her feel like more than the next notch on your bedpost.
However, you don’t want to overdo it by texting her too much. This could make you look too desperate and scare her off.
You don’t want to come across as the guy who falls in love with every woman he sleeps with.
7. Don’t Parade Her Like A Trophy On Instagram
This is another way to seem like the dude who falls in love after one hook-up.
You might have taken some great photos together on your first date. You might be desperate to show this babe off to your social media friends. Fight that urge for now. Save it for when you’re in an established relationship.
8. Invite Her Somewhere Casual
A few days after the hook-up, go ahead and start making plans to hang out again.
At this point, casual dates are less intimidating and easier for her to agree to.
Make sure she has a great time. Treat her just as well as a woman you haven’t slept with yet. Show her she’s special to you.
Hopefully, from there, she’ll be excited to keep seeing you again and again.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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