There is a painful dynamic that can happen between men and women where a woman becomes resentful, angry or unkind and a man feels like he can’t do anything right. In today’s podcast, Melanie Curtin and I explore why this happens and what a man can do to end this dynamic!
I know relating to women isn’t always easy, especially when they are emotional, demanding or upset.
The reality is that women need to express emotions if they are going to open their hearts, and bodies, to you! If they don’t they become more dry, distant and less turned on.
When a woman is upset it doesn’t mean you’re bad or wrong, or even necessarily that you’ve done something bad or wrong, but many men fall into the trap of seeing it this way. So they try to avoid a woman’s upset. This sets up a painful dynamic and it gets even more painful when it becomes the norm.
When a woman is complaining or yelling at you it seems like she’s expressing emotion but it’s so unconscious that it’s not helping her release or open her heart!
If a woman is verbally abusing you then you need that dynamic to change or you need to leave.
In many other cases though, while it would seem like you want to get her to change, the only one you have the power to change is you!
This Man Alive episode is an exploration of what you can do when you feel helpless or stuck with a woman’s emotions.
Melanie Curtin, a sex and relationship coach and creator of the Dear Men podcast, joined me for a joint episode where we discussed:
- What happens to women when men are distracted or heady
- What women long for that, when received, often helps them relax
- How to shift nagging and bitching to passion and productive collaboration
- What happens to your sex life when you don’t stand up for what you need
- How stepping into leadership can improve your relationships
Melanie is an awesome woman and our conversations are always powerful and insightful!
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Melanie Curtin is a men’s coach and sex & dating researcher with a Master’s in Communication from Stanford University. She has been published or seen on The Today Show, Huffington Post, The New York Observer, elephant journal, and more, and has been coaching men for over six years. She specializes in bringing a woman’s perspective to men, so they can connect with women in fun, inviting, and meaningful ways that lead to fulfilling sex and relationships.
Krystal Taylor is a certified Tantra yoga instructor who specializes in educating and supporting individuals towards sexual wholeness. Krystal has been teaching yoga since 2011 and practicing Tantra since 2015. Her unique coaching approach involves sharing ancient yogic philosophy, ancestral practices, as well as her own sensual yet down to earth techniques. With these tools, clients can learn to use their sexual energy as a way to fuel their spiritual walk instead of working against it.
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Previously Published on shanajamescoaching.com