If you are (or have been) in a relationship, you’ve likely faced these challenges.
Many people, including myself, have faced such love pitfalls.
Here are seven common relationship problems and how you can work around them with your partner.
I see plenty of “should I stay questions” online. My answer is the same all the time — no. Why do people seek external help for these decisions? My reasoning is their partner is destroying their pride and self-worth.
Most women think a damaged ego is the worst and most selfish excuse for a breakup. So, they ask others if they should leave. Even the worst relationships shouldn’t cost you, your self-confidence.
I don’t know why. But it’s hard for one person to be someone’s everything in reality. I was in an Uber Pool and walked in on a fascinating conversation between best friends.
A woman wanted to pause her relationship with her baby daddy. Why? He is a good father, but the bedroom department lacks spice. I talk about settling a lot in my articles. The cause? At some phase of a relationship there will be a lull, and you’ll have to stick by your person or move on.
#3. Quality > Quantity
People in long-distance relationships can have a deeper bond than married couples. The reason? Quality time. Married people see each other daily and don’t value moments spent together.
That’s why date nights are critical. See each other as sexy “young things” again. Distance is okay if you maximize those loving feelings and emotional hormones.
#4. The work
In a toxic relationship where your partner is self-serving, do what is best for you. If the partnership is healthy, do what is best for your union.
I know this seems odd. But nip problems before they sprout. Speak up when you feel alone early and consider one or two couples’ therapy sessions in the good times.
Keep your relationship details private until you’ve healed. Or until you have accepted living with the past. I had stuff brought up over dinner tables in the cringest of ways when all I wanted was for everyone to forget.
I know you see celebrities share their issues in public. But most went to therapy before airing their dirty laundry in public. Beyoncé’s Lemonade album came about from a therapy assignment. Quavo didn’t talk about his relationship with ex-Saweetie until a year later. The Kardashian’s reality show airs after they moved on from the previous drama.
Do you care if another couple is faking their happiness? Then you are miserable at that moment in your relationship. Happy partners want other booed-up people to be merry. Personal joy makes us less effective investigators. So you won’t care or notice much if the cheery love got faked.
Not every mistake makes for a deeper connection. It’s all about your recovery and future choices.
Drama, affairs, lying, and manipulation are not mandatory love obstacles. “Real” love can be peaceful from beginning to end. Decide if you and someone have the same goals and level of respect for each other before committing.
Thank you for reading this post.
This post was previously published on medium.com.
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