As a guy, when a woman catches my eye, a mix of nervousness and excitement takes over. Subtle gestures, like adjusting my clothes or fidgeting, begin to manifest as I summon the courage to approach her.
A man can then spew some cute pick-up lines, make her smile, and ask for her number because, generally, it can be easier to express yourself through text than talking to her in person. Little do you know, your journey has only just begun.
You have to pique her interest through texting to even make her willing to go out with you on a date.
Texting a woman with the aim of making her want to date you is never easy, but in this article, we’d walk you through the best ways to make her feel special through texting and let her know how much you care.
Whether you got her number from her directly or you got it from a mutual friend, this guide is sure going to help you get your lady.
You need to know this before you go further:
Start with a plan
Getting a woman interested in you isn’t something you need to rush into. Yes, you’ve done the hardest part of approaching her and collecting her number, but that isn’t everything. You need to strategically plan your approach before you begin texting her.
This isn’t rocket science. You can start by choosing the right time to send her a message. My advice is that you should do it in the evening when she’s less busy. Most people are more available to chat in the evenings.
If you don’t plan out your approach, she is going to get very less interested in interacting with you, and everything is just going to fall apart.
Make time for her
You know you like this person; that’s why you already have her contact regardless of whether you approached her for it or got it from a mutual friend.
But you need to ask yourself this: Would I really be committed to putting in the effort to appeal to her? Because, trust me, getting a woman to be invested enough to date you is a whole lot of work.
You might be a busy man, and you might not have the chance to go through with it or the patience to keep investing your time and effort. But if you’re truly committed to going through the stress, then you can start initiating contact with her through text.
How to become a master at texting women
Don’t delay your first text
After collecting her contact, the golden rule is to wait for at least a day before you send her your first text. If you wait for more than a day, she might get the feeling that you might not be serious. Some might advise that you stay longer, but this isn’t the time for you to keep a woman waiting.
Trust me, in this situation, she isn’t going to be eagerly waiting for your text as many might anticipate. She might even forget your face if you stay longer because, for an attractive woman, it is said that an average of 3 guys ask them for their number a day.
So, don’t let the rest of those guys beat you to getting her while you delay your text. Remember, the goal is to make her prioritize interest in you.
Start texting her lightly
She’s just getting to know you, so you don’t need to go overboard with your text or compliment.
Yes, she might post a beautiful picture or reel, and you might have an essay of why you think she’s the most beautiful person you’ve ever seen. But now is not the time to do that. You can just tell her how she looks great in that photo, and that is it.
Keep your compliment short and simple at this stage. The only time you can go overboard with your compliment is when she’s already your girlfriend, and she’s also doing the same thing for you, not when you’re just starting out.
Going overboard at this stage is only going to seem that you’re desperate, and you have to keep your standards high.
Use emojis
Emojis has the power to soften conversation and is a really good way of showing your crush how you feel. Emojis like hearts, roses, and kissing emojis can genuinely convey your intentions and would greatly decrease the chance of her potentially friendzoning you.
Moreover, no one wants to be with someone who is boring and doesn’t have a sense of fun.
When starting out, it’s best to keep emojis light and playful. Use them sparingly to convey emotions or add a touch of humor to your messages.
Use her name when texting
This works wonders.
Using someone’s name when texting her would make her have a soft spot towards you and also create a sense of personal connection with both of you.
You can use her name in situations like when complimenting her, for example, ‘Sarah, that was such a great idea you had earlier!’ or expressing interest, like ‘I’m curious, Emily, what’s your favorite type of music?’
Doing this would make your interactions feel more intimate and attentive.
Make her blush
When you’re texting a girl with the intention of making her heart flutter so she’d develop feelings for you, the last thing you want to do is be sending her uninteresting things that would make her feel bored or even angry enough to block you.
You have to make her blush.
You can say things like how when you first saw her, you were mesmerized by her beauty, and you told yourself that you must approach her, not even thinking of being rejected by her. If you want to be in her thoughts, then you have to make her blush.
Send her cute messages during the day
Sending cute messages to your crush during the day is a great way to make her feel special and uplift her spirit. Especially on potentially terrible days, whether it’s at school, work, or just a bad day.
And when that notification pops up on her phone, telling her how wonderful she is and wishing her a great day, it would not only put a smile on her face instantly but also lifts her spirit and elevates your rank in her heart. Trust me, this one is a game-changer.
Send her goodnight & good morning texts
As things are starting to look good and she feels comfortable chatting with you, sending good morning and goodnight texts to your crush is a good way to warm your way into her heart.
It tells her that you’re thoughtful and that you’re thinking about her at the beginning and end of the day.
You can do just one so as not to seem too cheesy, as most guys don’t like feeling cheesy. But if you’re a guy that loves being romantic, you can do both.
Tell her some of your secrets
Telling a woman some of your secrets is a great way to break that barrier, making her open up to you. Most women love when you share personal secrets, like challenges or flaws, as it signals trust and authenticity.
This transparency shows that you are willing to be honest if you both end up in a relationship, allowing her to see you for who you truly are.
I’m not saying you should disclose a secret that could potentially harm you and your reputation if it were made public. Instead, share a harmless secret that wouldn’t cause you any harm even if revealed. If you want a girl to open up to you, you have to open up to her first
Text her a pic of something funny
You might be on Instagram or Twitter and saw a meme that relates to one of her behaviors. If it was funny and made you laugh really hard, it’s a nice idea to send it to her.
Texting her something funny can also act as a conversation starter, especially when you might be out of things to talk about. You’ll see that it might even bring up something interesting for you both to start talking about.
Remember little details
It would be amazing when you’re observant of the littlest details she might share when you’re chatting with her. For example, she might mention liking a certain genre of movies and songs.
You can go and research on Reddit for a more interesting movie and recommend it to her or even create a playlist of her favorite kind of songs. Or If she mentions having a test the upcoming day or week, keep that in mind and ask her how the test went after the day for the test.
Doing this shows that you’re a really attentive guy and would be able to sense her mood and feelings when you’re both in a relationship, even if she doesn’t open up to you. Look for movies and songs that she can relate to and recommend them to her.
Let her feel she can rely on you
People really have a lot going on in their lives, and sometimes what they just need is someone who will listen to them ramble about their problems, and to be that guy she runs to, you have to let her feel she can trust you.
And the best way to do that is for you to pay attention to little details like I mentioned above, be sincere about yourself, encourage her in her endeavors and offer your support when she needs it.
Some women might take a short time before they feel they can trust you, while some might take longer. But with time, if your intentions are clear, she’d definitely feel it.
Things you shouldn’t do when texting a woman
Come across as too needy
Don’t bombard her with constant messages or demand immediate responses. Give her space to respond at her own pace.
Don’t talk about your ex
Avoid bringing up past relationships, especially in the early stages. Focus on the present and getting to know each other.
Don’t seek validation from her
Avoid constantly seeking reassurance or fishing for compliments. Confidence is attractive, so believe in yourself without relying on her validation.
Send Unwanted Photos
Respect her boundaries and avoid sending unsolicited photos. Always ensure she’s comfortable with the level of intimacy in your communication.
Send Long, Unreadable Texts
Keep your messages concise and clear. Long, convoluted texts can be overwhelming and might be ignored.
Respond Immediately Every Time
While prompt responses are good, avoid making it a habit to reply instantly every time. It’s important to have a healthy balance and show that you have a life outside of texting.
Pressure for Immediate Plans
You shouldn’t pressure her into making immediate plans. Respect her schedule and suggest plans in a considerate manner.
Not using good grammar
Communication is key, and using good grammar demonstrates respect for the conversation. Poor grammar can be a turn-off, so make an effort to express yourself clearly.
CONCLUSION
Most guys nowadays find it hard to text a woman in the right way to get her interested. It’s normal to feel a bit nervous when texting someone you fancy. Just remember, she’s just another person. It’s just a chat, start and see where it goes.
Also don’t stress if she doesn’t reply right away. Send the text, put your phone down, and do something else. Stay chill, and it’ll reflect in your messages.
Remember you might do everything right, it might not click in the end and that’s not a bad thing either. If it doesn’t work with her, it doesn’t mean it won’t work with another woman. It might just be that that particular girl wasn’t meant for you. So, keep trying, keep adapting, and remember, the right match might be just around the corner.
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