Several personalities
Have you ever felt as if a woman does not like you? Yet, she keeps texting you back and matching your energy. Her flirts and texting times remained constant. But you feel something is wrong.
Listen to your emotions. Some women cannot shake people-pleasing personalities. Other times, it is a safety mechanism or a desire to protect your friendship.
They will engage over text or in your face.
But the minute you ask to see her for a date, the woman gets cold feet. If this keeps happening, it is a sign the woman is using subtleness to drive you away.
Confusion about your role means the woman isn’t ready to take the next step with you. Dial back the relationship progress you are proposing. If in the beginning stage, choose to walk away.
Your continuous approach also confuses her. The woman wonders about your intentions because you are relentless.
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Urgency
Every inconvenience is an emergency. Most women who like men dial back their schedules to make time for new relationships, even busy ones.
I’m not saying the woman throws her priorities away. That’s not it. She will become more flexible with her time to accommodate socializing. She will ask about your availability or suggest free periods to help you organize your plans.
Women who don’t like a man’s approach? They suddenly need to vacant an area after leisurely milling around.
Repeated excuses with no effort to adjust plans say a lot.
Her absence is a signal, especially if you are always the one to check in and follow up. She doesn’t want to usher you out. Instead, she hopes you decide to walk away.
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Abrasive circles
The woman’s friends don’t like you. And she doesn’t jump to your defense. Instead, she downplays your feelings with zero emotional comfort extended. She also tells you to prep for more of the same treatment.
She won’t try to make peace between you and her friends. If you say anything, an ultimatum is coming your way. It won’t be in your favor.
Her friends also led her away from you. Sometimes, they break up moments that are going well. She doesn’t feel hurt or torn about it for long. Her deposition changes fast to one of joy to be doing something different.
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In theory, communicating no would have been a much easier way out.
But complex humans have confusing ways to send signals about their lack of interest. Men also do these things for similar results.
Thank you for reading this post.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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