The most unremarkable thing leaders do is worry about themselves.
Self-concern is natural. Self-obsession is destructive.
Toxic Worry
Anxiety turns people into threats.
- Feedback feels like attack.
- Disagreement feels like disrespect.
- Success in others feels threatening.
Worry smells like fear. Fear makes you small. Life shrinks when self-protection becomes your goal.
Defensiveness clouds judgment.
Stop protecting yourself. Advance the mission.
Serve purpose, not status.
The best way to stop worrying about yourself is to invest in others.
Praise someone who disagrees with you.
Brag about another’s success.
Small leaders turn inward:
- How do I look?
- What if I fail?
- Do I look weak?
When worry rises, ask:
- “What serves the mission?”
- “What lifts people?”
- “What moves us forward?”
- “How can I help someone develop?
Influence dies when self-protection rules. Turn fear into service.
12 Strategies for Dealing with Worry
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