I’m the woman who slept with your husband.
You lost any interest you had in him.
You told him you could only tolerate having sex with him when you were drunk. You got pregnant, hoping to “save” your marriage. It didn’t fix your problems, of course.
“You can’t break up our family!”
“You’d never see your little girl!”
You just keep him guilty enough not to leave.
When your husband started bettering himself, you never noticed. He went to the gym religiously. You never complimented him on his hard, sexy body. You pushed him away again and again.
You gave him the least amount of attention you could. You were never affectionate. You’d turn your head if he came in for a kiss. You’d give him a push away if he reached for your body in bed. You’d prop pillows up between you to thwart his advances. You sighed in exasperation at his desires.
I know you don’t do oral. I also know you don’t caress him or comfort him. You don’t enjoy his hands or mouth on you. Sex wasn’t important to you. And you’d criticize his needs.
“Is all you think about is sex?”
Did you think he’d never go looking?
He never felt deep desire before me because he dedicated everything to you. He’d flirt, sure, but you had that man beat down that he never even thought he could get someone else to want him. Let alone that he might deserve better.
It took me a while to realize he wanted me.
He was subtle and shy and incredulous that he might be desirable.
He never cheated before me.
I’ve seen the damage you’ve done. He’s a sweet, romantic man. He’s incredible in bed. I’ll never understand how you don’t crave him like I do. He’s damn fine for his age, built like nearly a Greek God. Strong arms, bright smile. Blue eyes like the Pacific after a storm. He takes good care of his body. But mentally, he’s a mess. You’ve tossed him aside for so many years, and he has those scars.
He feels a combination of incredible happiness and terrifying guilt when we are together. Despite every hurtful word and action, he tears himself apart for your 20-year marriage disintegrating.
He loves deeply, feels deeply, and he hurts deeply.
I will always give him what you can’t — sexual satisfaction, joy, love, appreciation. Just like you can give him something I can’t — his family. I need his heart and soul, his touch. You need him as a provider and father.
All I want is for him to be truly loved and to be genuinely happy. Treat him the way he deserves. Pleasure him in every way you can. Show him affection. Appreciate him for all he does. Or let him go.
Rest assured, wives. If you treat your husband like shit long enough, another woman will love what you won’t.
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Adapted from an anonymous post on r/adultery on Reddit.
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I guess that Monalisa got her information about this man’s wife and her supposedly terrible behaviour towards him from the man himself. And she actually believed him?!?? 🙄