If You’re Ready for Change You Should Expect This

Picture yourself in 60’s broke and alone living paycheck to paycheck working a job you don’t like in a cheap apartment. The worst part?

Your feeling of regret.

Sometimes imagining a worst-case scenario is the right fuel you need to follow through on something difficult you’re trying to change about your life.

This is scalable. It applies to any kind of change you want to make, no matter how big or small.

That Feeling of Resistance

You’re ready to move on to something new. You’ve known it for a while now. A little nudge in your gut you feel now and then. The feeling keeps getting stronger.

When you begin to act on it, this feeling creates something like a threshold. Once you start to enter the threshold your energy shifts. You might feel it physically in your body.

It’s uncomfortable. It makes you uneasy.

Ladies and gentlemen, I’d like to introduce you to my good friend Change. Usually, when we feel the first hint of change it has us wanting to swim our ass back to the luxurious shore of comfort that we’re used to.

I felt this once I started having interviews for new job positions. I knew it was time for something better, but that feeling of comfort and familiarity tried to draw me back.

Staying in a place where I know all my co-workers and have become accustomed to the environment sounds nice. It’s the easy thing to do.

However, deep down there is a subconscious bubbling that continues to develop.

It causes numerous problems if you know that you’re ready for something new. Continuing to bury that feeling won’t help. This was the case for me.

The Reason Most People Don’t Ever Change

So many people remain in the same spot for the majority of their life. It’s because they fear change. It’s unfamiliar territory and they don’t know what lies on the other side of that mysterious veil.

It’s a mystery and they’re usually afraid that it could be something bad. They think it could lead to nothing or a worse outcome.

What they don’t realize is about 99% of the time change is nothing bad. It’s just land that has yet to be traveled upon. A quick perspective shift allows you to see this is actually the beauty in it.

It’s an opportunity for new experiences. An opportunity to upgrade. When you go through with the change you’re always happy you did. You feel the growth. It builds you up and inspires you to keep going

And what if it doesn’t make you happy? Or what if it leads to something worse?

Well, you can always go back or try again. If you find out it was the wrong move now you know. You had to fuck around and find out. There will still be something you can learn from.

At the bare minimum, it might provide you with the realization that it wasn’t so scary to commit to change after all.

Reshuffle the deck and give it another shot.

Immediate Steps You Can Take

Number one is to acknowledge your resistance to the change you’re making. Accept that it’s uncomfortable and a part of the process.

Sit in that fire. Don’t run from it.

Next, write it down.

Make yourself a plan of action to stick to. This helps you internalize it and makes the steps to take tangible.

Finally, when it becomes very uncomfortable and you want to quit, remind yourself why you wanted to make the change in the first place. What was your initial reason?

That first idea drawing you to make the change is the seed of reference. It reminds you exactly why you know you need to make the change. It provides reassurance that you’re on the right path.

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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