Someone commented recently on one of my stories. They were shocked by some of the dating tales. What can I say? It’s all true. I wish it weren’t. It’s not easy dating after a divorce.
Turns out the guy I was talking to is definitely married.
He’s an expert liar.
I deleted all of the the stories I had written about him. I don’t want to remember our conversations. Why would I? They were full of lies.
I met a few of my BFFs for dinner recently.
When I used to write my column I gave people monikers.
I called them ‘Cookie’ and ‘Candy.’ They picked out their names which makes me smile. These days I usually just refer to people as a ‘friend’ when I’m writing.
Anyway, Cookie and Candy gave me a good laugh.
One I desperately needed.
“Where’d you meet him?” they asked.
I tell them where we met.
“What’s his name?” they said.
I tell them his name.
They burst out laughing.
At first, I don’t understand why. And then it hits me. Could I have been any stupider? My divorced girls were with me when I met him, and they didn’t pick up on it either.
For a girl with trust issues…
I’m evidently a little too trusting.
I’m slipping back into my old shoes.
His last name was the name of the bar where we met. Duh? There’s a reason I hate going to that bar. I should stick with my gut instincts.
In my defense, when I told him I was looking him up he sent me a screenshot. He had Googled himself, and the details matched the story he had told me.
I believed it was his last name.
I think my guy friend was right.
He told me I’m not street smart.
He thinks I’m a deer in the divorce dating headlights. He thinks I’m easy prey. He’s trying to watch out for me. He told me I need to beware of men.
Turns out he’s not wrong.
At the very least, I need to make sure their last name doesn’t match the bar’s.
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