Lessons in Love From Tom Holland and Zendaya’s Relationship

From co-stars in the Spiderman franchise, to friends, to now romantic partners, the Internet is obsessed with Tom Holland and Zendaya’s relationship. And frankly, it makes sense. The pair shows what an incredibly loving and mature relationship can look like.

After watching videos and interviews with them, I actually noticed some lessons about relationship success that contribute to the success and happiness of their partnership.

Here are five lessons in love from Tom Holland and Zendaya’s relationship:

1. They practice each other’s love language

Dr. Gary Chapman discovered five unique styles of love that couples have to express and receive love to and from each other. These five different ways of love are called love languages and include words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. Not everyone communicates love in the same way, and people have different ways they receive love based on their top love languages.

Showering your partner with love based on their love language can promote better feelings of connection and growth in the relationship.

And based on an interview Zendaya did years before dating Tom (see the TikTok video below), her top love language is words of affirmation. And Tom definitely delivers.

He shows her love often through his words and affection for her, not holding back or being shy during interviews with his verbal affection and admiration for Zendaya.

Many relationship experts agree that love languages are, in fact, real, and that understanding each other’s love languages can really help strengthen a relationship.

Zendaya and Tom seem to practice that, which contributed to the health of their relationship.

2. They laugh together

Couples that laugh together, last together.

Men tend to like women who laugh in their presence, and women tend to laugh more at men they like.

Zendaya and Tom seem to have a natural affinity and bond over their shared sense of humor. Between sets, interviews, and their personal life, their shared humor allows for their bond to only strengthen.

Shared laughter together is an indication of a happier couple, and couples that laugh together are a sign that they are on a path to lasting love.

Plus, who doesn’t want to be in a relationship with someone they think is funny?

Zendaya even made fun of how much she laughs at Tom, in this Twitter meme here.

3. They built a strong foundation as friends first

The romance between Zendaya and Tom took years to bloom. They lived near each other, and even met each other families and friends. They really got to grow up together from when they met for the first Spiderman film.

As friends first, they got to know each other’s real sides — even asking for advice, sharing resources, and allowing things to grow slowly.

Tom has mentioned often how Zendaya helped him get used to the limelight and showed him how to be kinder to fans and become more tech-savvy on social media.

Their friendship allowed them to challenge each other and balance each other out. Tom’s silliness and youthful energy is balanced with Zendaya’s mature classiness and grace.

They even competed in lip sync battles against each other and have a lot of shared memories together where they got to be silly and bond.

Photo by Simi Iluyomade on Unsplash

Since they were friends first, the two of them had time to build a trusting relationship and were already comfortable with each other because of their history as friends. They could make a well-informed decision when they dated based on their compatibility. They were likely more wise about their choice to get together too.

Being friends first is actually quite common. Researchers estimate that 68% of romantic relationships start from a place of friendship.

4. They feel close and safe when together

There are many interviews and pictures where Zendaya and Tom lean into each other. One famous photo of the two of them shows Zendaya resting her head on the crook of Tom’s neck.

It’s actually hard to find a recent interview where they don’t lean into each other. Their comfort with each other is evident and indicative of how connected and trusting their relationship is.

In interviews, they are also happy to gaze into each other’s eyes, showing real connection and a comfortable intimacy in their relationship.

Ultimately, for a healthy relationship, you want to feel safe being able to be close and intimate with your partner. Knowing they are a safe base, develops more trust and a secure attachment to that partner.

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To Tom and Zendaya!

I love healthy, mature love, and this relationship seems like one that is full of two people who clearly love and adore each other.

It’s great to have two people to look at to see some lessons in love, and I wish their romance the best as they continue their partnership. I mean no wonder so many people are obsessed with their relationship? They are such a great example of a healthy, loving couple.

So to Tom and Zendaya!

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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