We enter relationships for various reasons, such as chemistry, similarities the need for companionship and to build families. Opening up to someone to share yourself can be challenging. The world as it seemed is forever changed. You’ve now become a person with expectations, different goals, increased responsibilities etc. Who you were is somewhat altered to create what you want.
This can be beneficial to those who are single and struggling to commit. The worst thing one could do is to bring their past into their new relationship. It makes it difficult for the other person to be completely comfortable. It makes them feel as though you aren’t all in. No one likes the feeling of being a rebound. Making the bold decision to heal yourself by having that one last meeting of the minds as a husband or wife will need to be strategically thought out and agreed upon by the spouse, since there is much more to lose.
- Remember that you aren’t meeting to change someone’s heart. You don’t want to set yourself up to get hurt.
- Don’t be afraid to ask those tough questions that have kept you up at night. Getting answers helps with clarity.
- Try to respect the other person’s decisions. Since they’ve agreed to meeting, they deserve to be treated fairly.
- Be aware of your time. Your spouse trust you enough to meet with your ex, you don’t want to give them any reason to be suspicious.
- Do not meet in a place that you previously enjoyed spending time. You’ll always love each other on some level. You’re not there to reminisce.
- Be honest about how you feel. Sometimes just getting it off of your chest mends a broken heart.