Love Is Not Like Breathing: It’s Something We Must Remember

When you forget to remember while you are in it, you drift away without even noticing.

If only we could remember, right in the thick of it, the beauty of what we are immersed in…

Sometimes, just as you’re about to fall, it catches you by some invisible thread. After a while, it stops being just about the person you fell for; it becomes about love itself. It stands between you like a third entity.

We’ve all tasted the roller coaster phase of love. Once the ride slowly starts moving, it’s already too late to get off. As you’re hurtling upside down along the tracks, you think the wildest part is behind you. But just when you say, “I think it’s over,” it catches you off guard one last time.

Then the ride slows down. It pulls back into where it started. You’re left with a bittersweet taste in your mouth. When you step off, you sometimes experience a strange loss of balance. You might recover quickly, but you might also feel nauseous. And that usually depends on what your stomach is full of.

An empty stomach is always the safest bet.

Keep that in mind.

Now, think about it. The moments you felt the taste of love on your tongue… The moments your balance was thrown off… The times you felt sick to your stomach…

It is all a part of love.

The real issue is what you’ve filled that stomach with.

When you fill it with past disappointments, anger, and resentments, an unfortunate ending becomes almost inevitable. That’s why your stomach should always be empty. Or, at the very least, only half full.

This is why talking matters.

This is why remembering matters.

I might be stating the obvious, but you have to remind yourself every single day why you fell in love.

Because we forget.

I once attended a breathwork workshop. While there, I realized something: We can forget even the things we assume are entirely automatic.

“Could someone really forget how to breathe?” I had wondered.

It turns out, they can.

When the brain is preoccupied with other things, it can forget even its most automatic functions. The instructor kept saying, “breathe.” And once reminded, you would breathe again.

Sounds like a joke, doesn’t it?

Our minds can forget a process our bodies have completely automated.

Because just as a person can forget to breathe, they can also forget to say, “I love you.”

Maybe this is exactly where love changes.

That initial excitement that gave you butterflies eventually morphs into something else. Its name might change. Its rhythm might change. But its essence remains the same.

That feeling that once swept you off your feet, that made the world look more beautiful…

It wants to be remembered.

Remember.

Remind yourself.

If you are in love, just as you sometimes need a reminder to take a breath, remember to say, “I am in love with you.”

Don’t let it fall prey to the daily grind, to past traumas, to expectations, or to needs – whether met or unmet.

Go now.

Tell the person you love.

The second you finish reading this.

Remember.

Say it.

I am in love.