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I once had to consider staying put at my current job or moving my family half way across the country for a new opportunity. Either decision could have been considered the right one, while at the same time either might have also been wrong. For men, big life choices like this are tough.
Some decisions are easy when it comes to your life, business, kids or marriage. After all you haven’t made it this far in life without some success.
However, more often than not, when it comes to life, business, marriage or kids, many decisions can be hard, challenging, complex, and confusing; in most situations it can be the first time you are faced with such a difficult choice. And how you respond impact your whole future.
What’s a man to do?
We often learn as we go and grow.
Should I take that new job?
Should I tell my wife she looks fat on those jeans?
College is expensive, do I tell my kid no?
When do I ask my boss for a raise?
And on and on and on and on… As men we all understands only too well how even the smallest decision
can have unintended consequences. No one wants to make the wrong decision! But what is the right one?
How to make the best decision every time.
And what if the right choice was also not necessarily the best? It’s easy to see why this is so hard.
In my life experiences here’s the absolute best way to come to a decision. Ask yourself: In light of my past experiences, current circumstances, and future hopes and dreams, what is the wise decision to
make?
Stop thinking in terms of right vs. wrong.
Ask, instead, what is the wise thing to do? And not just the wise thing, but the wise thing based on:
1. past experiences
2. current circumstances
3. future hopes and dreams
Think back to your big life decisions: how would they be different now if you had asked yourself this very question?
Look no further than the recent United Airlines fiasco. Remember when the airlines literally dragged off one of its paying passengers to make room for their own united airline staff. The airline had the right to do this: it was stated in the fine print on the passenger tickets. But in this situation, doing the right thing, was absolutely not the wise alternative.
The great thing about being a leader, entrepreneur, husband or father is that we often, but not always, get second chances to get things right. So, moving forward, be less concerned about being right and more focused on being wise.
What’s one decision you made that was right, but not necessarily wise? Or a wise decision you made, that was an alternative to being
right?
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