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When you know a little about energy, a little about sexual energy, a little about the body, a little about arousal, you can turn someone on really easily. You can take them to orgasm easily.
It often doesn’t take a lot if you know a little.
Especially the way most women have been touched.
And in time, if you wake up a little, if you become more conscious, you see that that’s paddling in the shallow end of the pool.
There’s a superficiality to that, an emptiness.
I did it and did it well, expertly.
And I learned so much from it.
I remember one SEXPO where I ran a ‘Theater of the Erotic’. We did 8 -10 live orgasmic massage shows each day for 4 days. Orgasm after orgasm after orgasm.
There were about 200 people at each show, the energy and excitement were intense.
And in time, if you wake up a little, if you become more conscious, you see that that’s paddling in the shallow end of the pool, never mind swimming in the ocean.
There’s a superficiality to that, an emptiness.
One of the really important learnings is this, it’s easy to arouse someone, the depth is different.
And one of the things that changes the experience, that really makes it different is the way you begin.
There isn’t a goal.
There an intention.
The intention is connection, intimacy, pleasure, energy.
It’s a sacred expression of my heart connected to the universal heart.
It begins with me going into myself, into quiet, into stillness, and allowing everything to flow from that place.
That allows me to touch you, to be in your energy, to feel you deeply, with awareness.
That allows something deeper to guide us.
That allows the sharing of something so exquisitely beautiful.
From there comes the understanding of the importance of relaxing the body, softening, opening, allowing the energy to flow.
This is vital.
It takes time, it takes patience, it takes presence.
Stroking slowly, so slowly.
The entire body.
This touch acknowledges you, sees you, feels you.
It’s where we begin a conversation, a dialogue of sensuality.
Slowly we sink into a space where the frequency of the body, the being changes.
You become more receptive to sensation, to feel.
I become more receptive to your energy, to your skin, your muscles, your nerves…
This relaxation, this softening becomes the base of the fire.
This is what allows us to go deeper.
This is what gives the fire substance, sustenance.
This is what allows you to go higher and higher.
This is what opens your body as a portal to the great mystery of pleasure.
This is where we both open to the intimacy of the moment.
This is where, as we go higher, we go deeper, expand in all directions.
And this is where the pleasure becomes unimaginable until you’ve experienced it.
This is where we can become orgasmic, every cell vibrating with pleasure.
Every cell vibrating with possibility.
Healing happens here, we don’t have to do anything other than be in the space.
Release happens here, we don’t have to do anything other than be in the space.
Creation happens here, we don’t have to do anything other than be in the space.
The root of ‘erotic’ is Eros, which is not only sexual love and desire, it’s also life-force.
Erotic Massage, in this way, is an expression of sexual energy as a life-force.
This takes us beyond simply turning someone on and bringing them to orgasm.
This is an experience of energy, of being, that touches every aspect of who we are.
For an erotic massage therapist, this changes things enormously.
You go from the deep end of the pool into the ocean.
And life in the ocean is more than a little different.
One of the things that you learn, and learn deeply, is trusting yourself, trusting your connection, your intuition.
This is an incredible gift to give yourself, because in time what you’ll see with it is that you learn to trust life, you learn to develop a deep connection with the energy and the rhythm of life.
There’s a peace in this, a knowing.
And possibility, such a possibility.
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