What do men experience when they don’t fit into society’s standards of masculinity? Despite many efforts to change our culture, there is still an expectation that to be a man means to be the macho man who doesn’t show emotion and is tough both mentally and physically. But even worse is expectation that guys “not be feminine”. 17 self-proclaimed effeminate individuals tell what it’s like to defy expectations. Here are some snapshots of their life.
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1.) I’ve never had a male friend before. Guys just steer clear of me because I’m effeminate. I would love to have a guy friend tbh.
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2.) When I was in elementary school I was constantly bullied because I’m effeminate.
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3) I feel like I’m effeminate looking for a guy. So instead of trying to work against it I embrace it.
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4) Being . an effeminate man my thinking has often aligned with the female perspective. I would love to switch brains with a hetero man for a month to see how different my views, interests, and interactions would be.
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5) As an effeminate gay male, I’m prone . to having mostly female friends, but lately I’ve felt the need to have more straight guy friends. Trouble is, I have kind of forgotten how to “be a guy.”
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6) I’m effeminate and I’m still a man. I don’t act “feminine” because it’s fun. That’s just my personality.
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7) Is it weird that I’m effeminate af but I’m straight?
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8) I want to be a father right now. But on one wants to have kids with me because I’m effeminate. I’d be a good dad. I don’t need to be in a marriage with the mother. I just want to be a great dad.
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9) The only issues with being an effeminate straight guy is everybody assumes you’re in the closet.
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10) One of my best friends told me that I need a personality coach to teach me how to walk because I’m effeminate. I never really considered her a friend after that.
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11) Being an effeminate guy is utter hell…no guys will talk to you and girls also don’t talk to you either. It is the loneliest thing ever.
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12) Being an effeminate guy makes for a difficult love life with women.
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13) Maybe I’m an idiot. Maybe I’m sappy. Maybe I’m effeminate. Maybe I’m not the most interesting guy in the book. But if there’s one thing I have, it’s heart and passion.
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14) I was raised without any father figure because my parents didn’t want me. I’m effeminate because of it. Not gay. Even if I was, using it hurtfully is wrong.
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15) Because I’m effeminate and sensitive everyone thinks I’m gay…I’m not, but I let people assume it.
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16) I feel kind of undesirable because I’m effeminate.
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17) I’m effeminate and get along better with women.
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18) As an effeminate male, tbh, all I really want in a girlfriend is for her to be uber affectionate, loves cats, and reminds me that boys can be pretty too every time my depression flares up.
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19) I’m effeminate, but not gay. I never get hit on by women, but gay guys do it all the time.
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20) I hate being an effeminate straight guy. No girl would want someone like me.
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