Men Don’t Say “I Love You” Until These Things Happen.

Some struggle to say that word, but that doesn’t mean they don’t love women.

Sometimes, men wait to feel safe and get some experience with the woman they’re talking to before they can finally put their emotions into words. However, these five things usually happen before they can finally say “I love you”

1. If he can feel safe with you emotionally.

There are some men who are not comfortable with vulnerability. Maybe they learnt from childhood that vulnerability makes men look weak. So, before they can say “I love you”, they usually want to be sure that their emotions won’t be used against them in the future,.
He would want to make sure you don’t mock him if he tells you what hurts him, his struggles or his fears. If he realises that he can be himself around you, slowly he will become vulnerable.

2. If he finally starts trusting deeply.

Love can feel dangerous when there is no trust. He may be attracted to you,’ care so much about you, but yet hold back his emotions until he’s sure your actions align with your words. For instance, if you can remain consistent, keep to your promises, or respect him even during disagreements, then he’ll start believing that he can build something meaningful with you,.

If the trust gets stronger than his fears, the words “I love you” will become easier to say.

3. If he starts imagining being with you in his future.

There is usually a huge difference between seeing somebody as part of you and just enjoying that person’s presence.

He may start thinking about you or start adding you to his plans when making some important decisions, also he may begin to imagine where he will stay with you, what type of home to build, or what life will be like if he finally ends up being with you.
You becomes more than his date, because his feelings have become deeper.

4. You support each other during difficult times.

People can get along when things are going well. But real love often proves itself during tough moments. Maybe he loses money, or his job, or has a stressful and terrible day and doesn’t know how to express his feelings. If you can remain supportive without being controlling, or just care only about yourself. He might begin to realise your strength.

He’ll say “You didn’t only stay with me when things were going well, but demonstrated your effort to make our relationship work even when things are tough”. This realisation changes how he sees you.

5. If he realises he doesn’t want to lose you.

Sometimes people don’t understand how they truly feel about someone until the possibility of losing that person becomes real.
He may notice how much peace you’ve brought to his life, and if you’re not around he misses your voice and the conversation you had with him. Then he may start appreciating those little things he usually take for granted,.

He may reach a certain point where he can no longer hide his feelings, that’s when he might finally say the words “I love you’

Also, remember words alone are not proof, because some men can say they love you but deep down it’s not true, while some may take a long time to voice those three words our but really mean it,. and you will see the evidence through his consistency, respect, effort, protection and commitment.

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This post was previously published on medium.com.