Christian. Protestant. Catholic. Hindu. Buddhist. Atheist. Universalist. Regardless of your religious affiliation or lack thereof most of us grew up with the Golden Rule, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” Also, some version of one of the ten commandments to “love your neighbor as you love yourself.”
The spiritual law of reciprocity espouses that we receive because of what we give or do. The law of attraction is grounded in the ability to attract whatever we are focusing on into our lives. Both laws are contingent on what we do first before a similar return may be manifested in our lives.
Wherever one may fall on the spectrum of religion or spirituality, the lines are clearly drawn, it all starts and ends with the man in the mirror.
As a Spiritual Strategist, I counsel individuals on how to find love. As a personal and executive Coach, I partner with them to achieve their relationship, love goals. In both instances, counseling or coaching, we start with introspections. It never fails that I see an inquisitive look on their faces. Then the question comes, “Well, I came here to find out how to find love. Why are we looking and asking me so many personal questions?”.
After I explain the spiritual laws, commandments, mantras, etc. that revolve around who we are first before we can attract, receive, or expect the love we seek in return. I walk them through an exercise asking them to think about someone they know that is genuinely a lovely person. Once they get that person in mind, and I see their aha light go off I move to the next step in the exercise. I then ask them, what type of people usually surround this person? There’s a pregnant pause, a shrug of the shoulders and a visible acknowledgment.
Confirmation of the fact that the people who tend to surround the lovely person that came to mind, are just as lovely. Like a moth to a flame, their energy level is as highly charged. They are just as friendly. Just as loving.
Love yourself and people who love you too will come. You want someone to stop loving you; stop, loving, yourself. You will attract others that feel the same way about you; unloving.
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