The Start
Relationship issues seemed to ensue and overwhelm me for months in this new relationship. I couldn’t seem to shift that his mood was my mood. His feelings were my feelings. I couldn’t gain positive momentum even though I was blissful and over the moon about him. While I waded through conflict I asked, “What the h*ll is going on here?” I wasn’t used our intense connection and it was kicking my butt.
Mirroring
I discovered the concept of “mirroring” and all of a sudden, I shifted. I had to get back in touch with myself so that I would reflect only the things I wanted and leave all of the other mess behind. When your partner is your mirror —this individual is reflecting truth to you.
What I learned
There are two parts to this; your mirror reflects insight into how you view yourself. Your partner also reflects their own desires toward you in the same manner. This soul collision as I call it must be handled with care. This particular dynamic, in my opinion, is more intense than all other relationship dynamics. My relationship has forced me to be more mindful of what I believe about myself. This is a good thing. My lover will always reflect things for my highest good. He is my reminder to practice self Love daily. I take heed to take better care of myself before I engage with him. He reminds me that I need to set my intention and be mindful of the type of energy I create.
If you find that you’re in a negative cycle, focus on yourself. Asking myself questions like what aspect of myself is being highlighted here? What do I bring to the table? Is this really true about me or is this my partner’s truth? Practicing self-care will help you maintain stability when you know that your partner is reflecting things that you don’t want to see. Take a look anyway, examine if there are parts of yourself that need healing. Mirrors show you what is needs attention after all.
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