— We matched and decided to go on a date, what should I wear?
Before deciding what to wear, send him a message, there is a good chance he is not coming.
— He sent me a weird text but besides the weird text he is okay, shall I go on a date with him?
No.
— He invited me to his house for dinner, what do I do?
Check his profile and run it through Google, if he exists in real life and checks out, then go to his house. Alert your friends about your whereabouts, share his home address with them, and make sure you have enough credit and battery on your phone.
— We have nothing in common but the sex is good, keep or toss?
He is not an object, talk to him, if he is okay with being sex buddies keep him. If you are emotionally vulnerable, think twice.
— He talks excessively about his girl pal, what to do?
Toss, either they have a thing going on pr he has a thing for her. Save yourself the heartbreak.
— He is lovely when we are on a date but after the date, he is nowhere to be found, what to do?
Toss, he is breadcrumbing you on dates.
— What is breadcrumbing?
When he gives you just enough to keep you around when he pleases and never more.
— We have been going out for some time, all is well, but for the first time he hasn’t responded to any of my messages for two days, I’m worried, maybe something happened to him?
Something did happen to him, he decided to be a ghost. Toss.
When he vanishes off the earth randomly.
— He is sending me gifts and tells me he loves me, we have just been going out for like a month, I think I found my one and only, where should we register?
At a spa with your girlfriends, you’ll need it when it ends. Oh, and it will end because he is love bombing you?
— What is love bombing?
When he is overly enthusiastic about you when you just met. Total narcissist move. Toss.
— We broke up months ago but he is on the apps so am I. Should I call him up as we are both available again?
No, toss. Wasn’t the first heartbreak enough?
— Everything is perfect. We are both into each other, we both invest equally, sex is amazing, intimacy is there, but he doesn’t call me his girlfriend, it is been 3 months. Thoughts?
If the reasons he gives you are bullshit for not calling it a relationship, call the bullshit and toss. This sounds like a situationship and he seems emotionally unavailable.
— He wants us to keep seeing each other but doesn’t want to be exclusive with me, he is so dreamy though what do I do?
If you are not okay with him dating other people tell him how you feel and be prepared to say goodbye if he chooses to stay uncommitted.
— He doesn’t plan any dates for us and really happy to hang out at home, what do I do?
Plan a date, take him out, then see how he reacts. If he just wants to keep you at home, something is not right.
— He is always making plans for the future but for the time being still not calling it a relationship, what do I do?
Well, he is future faking you. Look at your current situation and talk to him about it, just don’t buy the future plans. The future plans are letting him off the hook for the present time and that’s exactly what he wants.
Future faking is when the guy you are dating is creating an illusion of a future with you so you don’t question what he is up to today. Basically, he is keeping you around with minimal effort by sweet-talking the future. You may have to toss.
— He ended it abruptly but I think he did it because he was scared we were getting closer, should I call him?
You are not a therapist and he is not scared. He is just not that into you.
By April Moons
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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