I wasn’t sure what type of a romantic person I am until I met my boyfriend. He is sort of a guy that brings out the romantic side of me so smoothly. I feel unguarded and safe with him. The way he’s giving and caring, I can’t do less than be romantic around him.
I’m sure that even my eyes tell him everything. Still, I love to express my feelings through my actions. since the beginning, he discussed that he prefers actions over words because in the past he’s been brokenhearted by a girl who did nothing for him.
So now, I put my focus on them and that’s why I feel like I evolved into my romantic self with him, in cute sweet ways that I never had before.
These are the things I do, to let him know that I love him:
● Every morning, I wake up before he leaves to work only to give him a hug and make sure he had his breakfast or packed.
● When he’s away, I keep his stuff in sight so I miss him less by thinking more about him.
● I sleep so soundly and have better dreams when he hugs me all night, the opposite happens when he won’t. I wake up in the middle of the night if he’s not wrapping his arms around me so I hug him instead.
● I hide one of his clothes for when he’s going to be away for a while. smelling his perfume makes me feel he’s here. Sometimes I hug it or put it next to me in bed so I sleep without missing him much. when he has just left and my pillows and duvet have his perfume, I hold them close to me as if it’s him.
● When he has time, I deliberately let him express himself more. I know very well that he had to listen to his boss and coworkers all day. Besides his rich voice, he has a calm pace of talking that I really like. I savor this for the rest of my day as he’s busy working.
● As he always asks me to pick where to eat, spend time, etc. I also pick places that I know he will enjoy the most and if he’s going to pay, it won’t cost him too much.
● I listen well to how he’s doing and point them out later in a few days. He loves to be heard and remembered so much that he gets excited about it. It’s not so easy to remember things having ADHD, but I do my best for him.
● No matter how others comment about him esp when he hears them, I’m always on my man’s side and show how much I respect him and know him on a deeper level, without offending anyone. I see how he’s always there for everyone but not everyone stands by his side, so the least I can do is support him all along.
● I have never fought with him in public, nor reacted to his anger amongst people. I just stay quiet and distant till we have a private space to discuss it. I don’t like others to affect our bond or think we have problems, so I keep issues to ourselves.
● Whenever I cook a tasty meal — especially his favorite meal — and he can’t come for dinner, I pack some of the food for him in the freezer so he can enjoy it whenever he wants.
● I avoid eating outside without him. If I crave restaurant food, I order some wraps but I leave the bigger feasts for when he can join and we can enjoy together.
● Once in a while, we have late-night talks like best friends do. It’s unplanned most of the time but it always brings our hearts closer.
● Through our conversations, I pay attention to what he likes or hates about everything. I do my best to act accordingly for his peace of mind.
● I do my best to be his source of happiness and peace. He likes to act tough like a man but he can’t stop my feminine care for him. If he’s having a backache, he knows that soon I will bring him a warm towel or I will massage him. He has been always there for me, so I never hesitate to do the same for him.
● I pay extra attention to what’s missing in his life and try to encourage him in that direction. If he’s mentally drained from work, I push him to travel or at least book him a spa appointment. If he’s too tired to cook for himself, I do it. If he needs to be alone because everyone was at his table at work, I give him space. he can be too caught up and make no decision, so I inspire him.
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I do all of these and I don’t expect anything back from. We have both passed that stage of “ I do whatever you do to me “ a long time ago. We’re both there for each other unconditionally and none of us controls the other one for that. This is what makes our bond real and I’m so grateful for it.
All my life I’ve been looking for a man that I could unlock my goofy, honest and loving side to him without being taken advantage of, and thanks God he is the one.
So I try to be the best version of myself to him, in my own language of love.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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