It’s that time of year again when people the world over pull out their Word documents and write down what they want to achieve in the coming year. So, why do we do this?
Is it because someone told us this was a good idea, or perhaps we’ve heard that being intentional is some magical formula for success in life? Or perhaps we’re just fed up with what life has been giving us and we’d like to take more control of what’s happening in our experience? All are perfectly valid reasons for being more conscious about how we live our life.
If University of Scranton’s research is to be believed, while 41% of Americans make New Year resolutions, only 9.2% of these people achieve what they intend for themselves. From 15 years of experience setting my own intentions and helping others’ achieve theirs, I’ve observed that the ones that are achieved have one thing in common, as do the intentions that fail.
The key seems to be the thought behind the intention, rather than the intention itself, more specifically is the intention set from a deeper intention of love or from fear, as it is always one or the other. In my experience, and in my observation of our clients at Life Energy Coaching and Business Energy Coaching, the intentions set from an underlying intention of love always seem to become reality, while those from a subconscious intention of fear either don’t manifest into reality or create imperfect, non-loving outcomes.
So, why is this, and how can we know whether our intentions are coming from love or fear?
Effective intentions that come from love will satisfy the following four criteria:
1. They intend a positive outcome in relation to our health, relationships or finances.
2. The intention cannot harm one’s self or others.
3. When you consider the intention, it feels good to you.
4. It is stated as if it has already happened e.g. I am now experiencing (insert the outcome you intend)
From an energetic perspective, intentions that are aligned with love are represented within one’s energy field by positively charged particles or protons, while those rooted in fear are represented by negatively charged particles or electrons, which cause resistance within our energy field to the flow of positive life energy that sustains us all. As positively charged energy feels good and negatively charged energy doesn’t, an intention that is loving for you will feel good, while an intention rooted in fear won’t.
Because everyone’s core nature is love (although our personality can be conditioned to not be loving), when we intend something that is likely to harm another, this will not feel good, other than possibly an initial short-term satisfaction where we feel somehow wronged by that other person. However, even in that situation, we will eventually not feel good about such an intention, no matter how much we may want to deny that feeling.
The reason successful intentions are set in the “now” is because linear time (past, present, future) is a human created construct that, while useful for planning purposes, is not acknowledged by Universal mind, of which our individuated subconscious mind is a part. And when we engage the awesome power of the subconscious mind, we receive an enormous assist in bringing our desires into our reality.
If you use the above formula when creating your resolutions for 2018, you will feel far more motivated to take and sustain the actions needed to bring them to fruition. And how about setting intentions on an ongoing basis, now that you have a formula that aligns your intentions with what is most loving for you.
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