One of them will go out and buy all the groceries and very Katherine Heigl style someone would open a bottle of wine, put on soft music and they would joke at the dinner table with a beautiful bolognese made from scratch on the table.
This date almost always ended up with sex in front of the fire place and heavy breathing covered in bed sheets at the end of the night. But as a single woman, I won’t do this. None of it.
There has been a phenomenon of men wanting wife duties from women they have no intention of making their wife. As sort of a “trial run” to see if you can. But what is a relationship without intent? It’s just a game.
Why would I play the game? When what I’m looking for is intent.
Why I’m still single.
I have a pretty large following on social media and talk a lot of my dating wins and woes — and the trolls always say things like “this is why you’re still single”
But what they fail to realize, is I could easily be married and have the life a lot want right now but I’m not seeking just anyone. I’m seeking my perfect match. The match that doesn’t need me. The one who loves me for me and doesn’t expect me to change my inner most self for them. The one who is going to be a light, and not a dimming bulb. So — yes, I’m still single, because I choose to be.
A good partner isn’t hard to come by, but the best partner for you should be.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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