Oh, Dear! Don’t Suck My Blood This Valentine’s Day

Brace yourself!

And excuse my language.

Valentine’s Day is gonna screw you soon.

Though you don’t need one special day to prove your worth as a lover, the entire business world tells you something different.

They sell you story after story about the fake importance of this so-called Valentine’s Day only to break into your bank account. They want to make you feel vulnerable and then suck your blood.

They somehow convince you that if you don’t buy expensive jewelry and reserve a window seat in a fancy restaurant to impress your girl on 14th February, then you surely know nothing about love and romance.

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I don’t know exactly how love became a commodity. And I don’t know when all our love and its expressions went into buying things and having dinners at restaurants we can’t afford.

But I know for sure that this commercialization of love is cruel. And this Valentine’s thing certainly puts a huge toll on men.

I hate this stereotypical gender role with men expected to plan and pay for romantic gestures and women expected to receive them.

Why?

Because it sucks.

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You feel immense pressure to perform in order to meet your partner’s (and, of course, society’s) expectations.

You rummage through YouTube, websites, and countless blogs for unique and expensive Valentine’s Day gifts (because you know only some red roses don’t make the cut nowadays), — and then you shortlist restaurants where you and your beloved might put your butts together to devour your hard-earned money for some Instagram-worthy photos.

But all of that — all your mental and financial distress — doesn’t necessarily make your love life awesome. It’s no guarantee that you are making it.

With some magic of the myth of Mr. Valentine, you don’t become more worthy and loveable in the eyes of your beloved or potential mate.

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Maybe you do, but just for that one day; just for some futile moments.

Then the next day and the day after tomorrow, you will remain the same poor guy you were before in the eyes of your beloved (sadly, now you have less money in your pocket).

You will realize that your desperation to prove your worth as a lover — whether on your own will or due to societal pressure — went straight into the gutter.

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Do you know why it happens?

Because your beloved compare you to a million couples who looked happier in their Insta-photos than you two.

Who doesn’t know that seeing other people’s romantic gestures and displays of affection can lead to feelings of inadequacy?

And for people who are already struggling in their own relationships, it brings disaster.

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Remember, your insecurities have always been and always will be a huge business for big corporations. They will keep creating things to brainwash you so that they can squeeze every bit of you to fill their pockets with YOUR money.

No wonder why this year Valentine’s Day spending is expected to reach approximately 26 billion dollars in the US alone.

Now think about the whole world. Insane, right?

If you ask me, I don’t see a point in celebrating one day for anything. Just like I don’t believe in celebrating one special day as Mother’s Day or Father’s Day — I don’t believe in Valentine’s day as well.

No Sir!

Being over-sentimental, I won’t follow the crowd. I hate this imposed gender role. I despise every bit of it — no matter how cool it looks on your digital profile.

And certainly, I won’t fall for a girl who prefers getting expensive jewelry on a special day every year as a token of love.

Kill me for being old school, but I don’t give a f*ck about Valentine’s Day.

And I think you shouldn’t either.

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