Old Head Tries Explaining the Biochemical Truth About Promiscuity — Peddles Lies Instead

How anyone can be this old yet lacking in wisdom is baffling.

You would think with all those years of lived experience, one would be the sage of sound advice.

So much for heeding the wisdom of elders:

The Rep Pill isn’t just for the youngins

Believe it or not, the application of evolutionary psychology (evo psych) is common among male dating coaches — something the older gentleman fancies himself to be.

Incidentally, most male dating coaches, particularly online, promote prescriptive gender norms, which in turn reflect a lot of Red Pill ideas, such as bashing women for being promiscuous.

While the gentleman in the video doesn’t claim affiliation with the movement, he does attempt to use science to paint a negative picture of women who do, making him, at best, sympathetic to the Red Pill.

But I digress…

My goal here is not to discuss the Red Pill in detail, but to examine the contents of the TikTok video, which, by the way, has amassed well over 100k views, indicating that the message is probably resonating with people.

So let’s unpack these so-called hidden biochemical truths about promiscuity and see if they hold up to scrutiny.

Here’s the gist of the claim.

Sticky tape doesn’t stick after 20 uses

Every time a woman sleeps with a man, her brain releases oxytocin, which is the chemical that helps her build attachment.

Having many sexual partners weakens oxytocin response, making bonding, trust, and loyalty harder for her to achieve.

Jumping from partner to partner also causes her dopamine system to get used to novelty and excitement. Her brain will begin to crave newness over stability. Consistency will feel boring, and healthy relationships will be suffocating. It’s not personality. It’s just biochemistry.

If she’s been with toxic partners, high-stress pairings, her body adapts and considers that as the norm. She’s on guard, she’s suspicious, she’s quick-tempered, and she misreads peace as danger. It’s not attitude, it’s her nervous system learning survival mode. Once the chemistry shifts, behavior shifts. She can no longer pair bond.

Therefore, if you, as a man, want loyalty, peace, and emotional stability, don’t let society gaslight you out of having standards; go for women with low body counts.

Boy, did he say a lot.

And he couldn’t even pronounce “promiscuous” correctly, which I found both funny and ironic. How are you going to drone on about promiscuous women when you can’t even say the word properly?

At least he did mention that promiscuity affects men to a lesser degree, which is something you seldom hear from men who love parroting these talking points.

Beyond that, everything he said is pure hogwash. Here’s why.

That’s not how oxytocin and dopamine work

This weaponization of oxytocin and dopamine by men is so infuriating.

While he is correct that oxytocin is a brain chemical that influences bonding, trust, and social connection, he is wrong about the brain receptors that receive oxytocin getting desensitized over time. He is making the mistake of assuming these receptors work the same way as cogs in a machine, and that with frequent use, they will get worn down and ineffective. But that’s not how the brain works.

Instead, the brain’s oxytocin receptors are part of a dynamic, adaptive system that can regulate sensitivity depending on context, and they are not going to get worn out any more than your brain stops enjoying music, no matter how often you listen.

A woman could have 100 one-night stands and still be capable of forming a deep emotional connection with the 101st man she meets. So no, it’s not just biochemistry, my dude.

And the same principle applies to dopamine receptors.

Though I will admit, he was somewhat right, only so far as in stating the link between dopamine and feelings of novelty and excitement.

Whenever we (meaning everyone, not just women) experience something new or exciting, our brains release dopamine, which leads us to feel interested, energized, and motivated to repeat the activity. It’s one of the major reasons sex and everything surrounding it feels so damn pleasurable.

But dopamine, in and of itself, does not cause women or men to crave novelty over stability, nor does it create a revulsion to healthy relationships, because dopamine is simply a chemical signal that marks experiences as rewarding, not a force that controls our choices.

All that talk about not being able to pair bond, being quick-tempered, compulsive, or distrustful, that can all be tied to personality, past experiences, or learned behaviors — not dopamine itself. Otherwise, sex would cause us all to exhibit toxic traits just by the sheer act of having it repeatedly.

Don’t get me wrong, dopamine or even oxytocin can play a role in toxic reward-seeking behavior, but it’s not the root cause.

Sex is not the problem

I always find it funny when men judge promiscuity in women under the guise of “having standards,” when in reality, it’s nothing more than insecurity.

The reason I know this is because you rarely hear them apply the same standards to themselves. Therefore, it’s not a standard at all, but a preference at best, or an expectation at worst.

Invoking science is merely a means to legitimize these hypocritical biases, not a pursuit of truth. It feels better to say women with a high body count are incapable of pair bonding rather than saying a sexually experienced woman who knows what she wants intimidates me.

The bottom line is, women love sex as much as men. And just like men, women can also have unhealthy attitudes towards sex, like:

• Using it as a tool for validation.
• To cope with negative emotions.
• Or to avoid emotional vulnerability.

And for some, that might lead to racking up that “body count” number, with fewer still getting adversely affected by it.

But even then, sex is not the problem.

The issue is the negative attitudes toward sex, such that a person with a healthier disposition could very well engage in sex with multiple partners and be no worse for it.

So maybe men should be teaching each other to stop worrying about a woman’s body count and instead focus on her character and the kind of relationship she has with herself. That is, if they are being honest about wanting loyalty, peace, and stability.