Unpleasant events like breaking off significant relationships or losing a loved one can emotionally hurt, and when life feels like it hurts, we feel pain.
Permit yourself to feel whatever emotional responses arise from painful situations, it’s healthy, and no matter how shitty these sorts of experiences may seem at the time, when you look back you’ll recognize how much they contributed to your expansion, growth and further exploration into the deeper inner workings of yourself.
Suppressing emotion is destructive, but equally destructive is holding onto our pain experiences too long. By grasping onto a painful experience for too long the entire purpose, lesson and reason of why this event occurred in our life becomes distorted, lost and misunderstood.
You may not believe it now, but painful experiences are blessings in disguise and contain in them powerful lessons meant to be catalysts to propel our growth. When the lesson is held onto longer than it was meant, these events can quickly turn self-destructive. Sensation-wise, pain is meant to be temporary. Nothing but a brief, fleeting period of time designed to “shock” our system back to awareness, and regain our balance and move forward with more clarity in our lives. Pain can shine a bright light on all the uncomfortable aspects in our life that otherwise would of remained concealed. The truth is, these uncomfortable aspects we’ve subconsciously kept hidden always become illuminated at some point, because these aspects want to be seen, heard and healed.
When it needs to, life sure knows how to get our attention, and if it clearly needs to show you something, it will with sometimes do so with sudden intensity. As painful as these experiences are, they are meant to happen, and the sooner you surrender to them, life becomes much easier.
You don’t have to like what’s happening, but you can decide to accept, grow and let go of the situation, instead of clinging onto and over-analyzing the experience for too long
No matter what’s happened, there is always something to be gained, but this will continue to evade you as long as you fixate on what you believe you’ve lost. Painful experiences are required for our path, and by overcoming them, we’re illuminating yet another stepping stone needed in crossing the “great river” of life. Like all rivers, it continuously moves in a continuous, circulating flow. A river only stops when it hits some sort of blockage or an obstacle, like a dam. Holding onto pain creates this blockage to our life’s flow.
It’s a choice…
Follow the path of clarity, growth and awareness that leads us into embodying our highest potential, or decide to dishonor our path by remaining stuck in pain and continually hurt ourselves.
Pain can propel us toward new heightened stages of awareness, but only if we decide to not remain locked inside it. Being locked inside our pain is similar to a prison. You truly believe you’re actually locked inside with no chance of escape, but in actuality, the door to pain’s cell is ALWAYS unlocked and open, and you are free to leave and move on anytime you wish.
You are the only thing keeping yourself imprisoned by a painful experience.
Why choose pain?
Maybe you find pain oddly familiar and the experiences have become comfortable because pain is what you’ve known your entire life, and the thought of leaving pain behind for unknown experiences seems terrifying as you continue to gaze out at life’s river from your self-imposed prison cell, watching the currents flow on by…
But maybe, just maybe you’re ready to leave your cell now and embrace the first stepping stone.
You’re ready to accept, let go in order to receive the gift that life has offered you through this painful experience…