Three of the hardest words in the English language to say out loud. No, not those: I don’t know.
Never knowing the outcome of any given situation, any given relationship, or any given conversation leaves us open to the possibilities of anything. It’s within the “not-knowingness” that miracles are truly possible. The “not-knowingness” is that place where nothing exists yet, and everything is open. It’s in the uncertainty where we are called to trust in something.
Yet it’s the most difficult place to be. It’s awkward and uncomfortable. They don’t offer “Being Uncomfortable 101″ in college, and there’s no weekend certification in “Comfortable With Discomfort”.
We are trained, in school and in life, to “know”. To understand. To reason, to think about, to figure things out, and to use our valuable mental resources to be solution oriented. Don’t think so? Have you ever used any of these statements:
- “Let me check where I am with that.”
- “Oh I’ll noodle that out and get back to you.”
- “I really need to figure this out.”
- “I’ll do something as soon as I figure out my next move.”
And we are rewarded for it. We get stuff, things happen, and our brains enjoy feeling important. Like really really important. As if it’s because of them that everything is in order and life makes sense.
Or does it?
In our limited capacity to understand this infinite universe and all of its potentials, by “understanding” does that mean we just stopped what was potentially the Coolest Thing Ever? Did we shove our own thinking into a box? Did we limit the miracles that are possible by thinking our way into a solution?
I’m going to offer a different option.
Get comfortable with not knowing. Get comfortable during the in-between times when you don’t know, quite yet, what to do. Allow a way to open up. Be okay with hanging out without figuring out. Put one foot in front of the other, trust the actions that you take, and leave room for miracles.
Or the option is, well, I don’t know.
—originally posted on Theresa Byrne’s blog