I’ve noticed a pattern in my life and I know that it has popped up in your life from time to time with your dream.
I talked this weekend to the Oregon state-wide Chamber of Commerce. I was the headline speaker and had almost two hours to speak. I did something that negatively impacted my life and talk. I never made the “ask.” For those not in sales, that is when you ask someone for his or her business or to do something.
I gave my best effort at a conference that I spoke at for free and still struggled to say, “If you want to chase a dream the right way, subscribe to my email list or get on the waiting list for my new book, Dream Chasing in a Mini-Van.”
Instead I talked and walked away. I self-sabotaged.
This is kind of a pattern in my life. I give of myself, but struggle to put myself in a situation that I could be rejected. I self-sabotage because I get fixated on what other people think.
I know you struggle with this at moments while you chase your dreams and as I was praying about my struggle to put myself out there I have come up with some tips that I know will help US.
The first thing I want you to do is analyze. When you don’t do something that will serve others better, I want you to stop and analyze, why? Why do you pull the punches on the truth you have to say? What makes you not sell your product, goods, purpose, or cause? Often, we do things we want to do and don’t dive into our heart and mind to see what is going on there. Don’t be shallow. Dive into the deep end of your decision making and analyze.
Do you believe? Whatever you are doing, do you really believe that it helps others? I believe what I have to say can save people’s faith and family while they bring the best version of themselves to the table. I need to remind myself to put myself out there and get over myself. If you believe that you are truly helping people, they need what you have to say. You are short-changing the world by not giving your best effort to sell your idea.
Get over yourself. It may sound harsh. Just remember I am talking to myself as well. When we self-sabotage we are focusing on ourselves. God can’t do through us what He wants to do when we are consumed with ourselves. Okay, God can do what He wants, however, I have never seen Him move in my self-absorbed state. When you focus on helping and not what others think of you, you bring your best version of yourself to the table and I believe God smiles in that moment.
Most massive breakthrough happens when we embrace simple truths. Focus on others, believing in the dream that is in our minds and heart, and catch ourselves when we aren’t living in that truth. Earth shattering no, earth changing, yes! God will move the more you follow Him and focus on others. Move despite your nerves and doubt and watch your world change.
It’s not as overwhelming as it’s built up to be. It’s like this; share this post with a dreamer that needs to believe in themselves instead of pulling their punches. See what I did there? I am like a sales ninja. As you embrace what He has for you and not your self-consciousness, you will be blessed on your journey.