An original, authentic, and handwritten note can make a friend smile and a lover swoon.
The teacher is writing with her back turned, occasional screeches of the chalk skipping on the blackboard send chills down your spine as your head snaps forward to make sure she’s not captured you in your maneuvering. You’ve fixed your eyes on the cute girl two seats behind you, she’s raised her brow at you, even blown you off a bit to indicate disinterest but you know differently. You won’t be dissuaded. Your intentions are clear and there’s no stopping that heartbeat of synchronicity.
Ah young love. The pen is drawn, forward you push past all resistance to spill your heart onto this piece of paper to unveil your affections for the cutest girl that God had the goodness to grace the planet just for you. You absolutely must level the playing field and see if she returns your undying zest.
The Love Note is born!
In a world of digital wander land, where we all interact at lightning speeds on micro bits of imperfect data with cheap winks and likes, we’re drowning in the nothingness of obscurity, longing for a genuine expression rich with its own originality. The preciousness of the love note has been traded in for emoticons and witty combinations of characters that symbolize sideways happy faces. Women everywhere are turning to literotica and it’s a rare man who knows the ongoing scent of a letter, opened slowly enough to be intoxicated with the perfume that fills his nostrils and drifts through his soul.
Let the love note return to us with a power we’ve never known. Here are the top five ways to write a powerful love note that will raise eyebrows, leave lasting impressions and catapult you to new heights of romance and relationships gorgeousness:
#1 — Don’t hold back. Go all in and say something original.
Anything original. (and authentic.) Forget what you hear in movies, but definitely use the heart behind it. Every woman wants originality and it doesn’t have to be perfect, in fact, sometimes a little boyish awkwardness can be charming.
#2 — Think about a subject of interest: what do you hope to achieve?
How do you want them to feel? Good conversation and connections are birthed in the foundations of thinking about your listener first and tailoring words that will be received favorably. If your intention is clear, your words will most likely come naturally, even if you don’t consider yourself an “expert communicator.”
#3 — Surrender all expectations, let go, throw in the towel and slowly dangle the carrot of love.
Modern women have a high BS sensor and social media has exemplified their abilities to congregate and share stories. So before you throw out a “cool pick up line” designed to impress, go ahead and make the assumption she’s already heard it and if she hasn’t, her girlfriend certainly has and they talk about it over their weekly apple martini meetups.
#4 — Be funny.
Guys, you want to make her grin like a little girl. Gals, you want him to want you, but go slow and slightly elusive. Everyone wants to connect to authentic these days and it’s becoming a lost art in an increasingly technological world.
Some conversation artists call this, “Breaking a pattern.” (NLP or Neuro Linguistical Programming) Everyone you meet has a script or pattern running on auto-pilot and they come to you pre-loaded with certain judgments, opinions and preferences. Breaking this pattern is a way of gently moving your listener to a new space where authenticity can flourish in an environment of trust. Humor is a great way of breaking that pattern which is where the expression, “crack a smile” came from.
#5 — It’s not about you.
The purpose of the love note is to leave a lasting impression. If you’ve never seen a woman swoon, that’s right, I’m talking gush with starry eyes and heart skipping a beat … you’re missing out. Women won’t always admit it, but they ALL want to be genuinely charmed.
Notes aren’t just for lovers. I would hand-write five personal notes per day to clients and my network often including Starbucks gift cards on birthdays or free McDonald’s ice cream cones for client’s children. At parties, people would often introduce me to others and mention a hand written note or card I sent them years ago!
I’ve written a love note to EVERY woman I’ve ever loved, cared for, or who was important to me (and a few men too!) often gluing cutout cartoons as illustrations. Throw it out there; be wild and free! Who cares if you’re misunderstood or note is perceived well, be original and different enough to take your hand with pen and send others a note of expression, even if just to say “thank you.”
If you’re really into the art of the pen, invest in a beautiful fountain pen. Nice ones typically include various gold embossing and decorative elements that are very impressive. At a high-end pen/stationery store they sell the old English style wax seals and an embosser with your initial. That’s right, fold a love note in thirds and seal it with a deep burgundy colored wax stamp, your initial gloriously stamped in the middle of it. Wow, what an impression!
Let the love (friend, thank you, get well, congrats, etc.) note reign once again in this digital decade as we boldly find new ways, and embrace old ways to connect.
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