What kind of effort are men putting in to discover a worthy mate? One man suggests how men manage their lives can either put them into the running for a forever bond, or leave their heart’s longing.
What is it that’s making dating so damn difficult these days? It’s as if this generation has never seen a successful relationship and all it knows how to do is satisfy its selfish endeavors. It’s almost narcissistic how much this generation cares so much for itself. It’s gotten so bad I’m questioning if my brothers know just how much of the dating responsibility lies within their hands. The kind of example we have to display and the expectations that we men need to live up to are necessary for our women to feel secure.
Men, how are you going about dating? What steps are you taking to find the woman for you? The word “find” can be defined as “to obtain by effort or management, to discover by intellect or feeling.” What kind of effort are we (men) putting in to discover a worthy mate? How are we managing our lives to be considered a proper man worthy of a forever? By what form of intellect and intuition are we using to discern what is “good” for us? Take a second to think about it.
Ladies, how are you preparing yourselves? Are you ready to be someone’s good thing? While you’re equipping yourself with the adequate defenses against the adversaries that maliciously seek your queenship are you also seeking the ability to allow yourself to be loved the way God intended? You have to learn to be unyielding yet vulnerable enough to feel the truth of a man’s intent. Understand that this good thing you possess also needs to be matured. You are also a gift that has to be earned, remember that.
Men, before you go finding your wife you must find yourself and also understand that there lies reflection of you with the acquiring of a partner. Choose wisely, endeavor to satisfy your spirit and soul before you satisfy your body. Strengthen your character, protect your integrity, and make the right decisions for your future partnership. You are important in ways you may not completely understand yet. You are a shield of protection to whatever woman you give your life to. Her trust, her vulnerability, her unique preciousness are what you are required to protect. Those cracks from her heart break, the scars left behind from someone taking from her love are where you stand guard. You are to be able to provide the safe place, the sense of security, and the leadership that a family will require.
Our partners were designed beautifully and specifically for us. Created in such a way that we would receive just by giving ourselves, we never lose giving love. The responsibility is ours. To be that man you have to want it, to be willing to put the necessary work in to grow that fruitful relationship. To seek out the things in a woman no one’s ever bothered to find, to learn to understand what it means to be that protection and provision, and also be willing to allow that woman to give the same love back “HER WAY”. Learn to be a man that knows what manly submission is. You need life spoken into you as well. It’s a part of that good thing and that favor, they are like sandpaper to our rough edges to smooth us out, receive it, appreciate it.
Dating isn’t about the dates, the sex, the gifts or the photos and cute stuff. It’s about finding yourself in another person and being able to surrender to each other. To learn intimacy and to learn to give love, as love is an outward moving force, you love yourself by loving your partner.
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