A lot of men think that women wield power over them. They may be right.
In a lopsided way which leaves guys defenseless, and that cannot be returned in kind.
Weirdly, the feared feminine potency emerges from sexism.
Reducing women to objects
Historically, men have had greater control of media, art, and literature. And there, they have portrayed women — and not men — as the focus of desire.
Now, if women had had that same control they surely would have made men the focus. (Given that most humans are straight.)
But in the process, women and their body parts have become largely fetishized and objectified.
But men-as-sexy are mostly absent. (That’s changing a bit.)
Here’s the downside:
To the extent that women are reduced to their parts, they morph into de-brained sex-things that can’t be taken seriously — and they’re less likely to enjoy power, status and good pay. Women may even be used and abused, or imprisoned in sex trafficking.
Put it all together and women are too often disempowered and underdeveloped.
Objects that weaken men’s knees
Yet these sex objects turn out to have a lot of power in one way: They dominate men’s minds and bodies by turning heads, weakening knees, overtaking thoughts, and disabling brains.
While women remain relatively unaffected by the mere appearance of a man.
Disempowered sexuality emerges as powerful
And, this male lust goes largely unrequited.
After all, women’s sexual interest is dampened by a world that sees female desire as dangerous. When women are constantly pressured to suppress their sexuality or face shaming, desire diminishes.
In an odd twist, this disempowered sexuality turns powerful in one way: a repressed woman is less helplessly driven by lust.
Some men take revenge
And plenty of guys resent it.
In revenge, some men hate women (I’ve written about this before: Men Who Hate Pretty Women).
Some seek to use and abuse women, like pickup artists, misogynist trolls, and MRAs who claim that men’s desire for women motivates everything they do.
But that just separates men and women even more.
Come together, right now
Despite the anger, most women and most men have not purposefully worked to create the situation.
And neither men nor women benefit from the situation, either. We unconsciously internalize the culture, and then turn around and re-create what we have learned.
The way through the problem is via greater equality and respect: less objectification, less sexual repression and less anger.
Not men-hating women.
And not women-hating men.
Originally posted on Broadblogs
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