They are not on your mind constantly
A clear sign of being attached to someone (or, if taken to extremes, being obsessed with someone) is when you consume your mental space. But, when you are over someone, you stop thinking about them. You get reminded of them only occasionally.
When a substantial period of time, say weeks or months, passes before you think of them (and that too because something reminded you of them, not because they were on your mind), then it is an evident sign that you have moved on from them. They no longer live rent-free on your mind.
You are not imaging a future together
I dated a guy to whom I was deeply attracted, but after our break up, there came the point when the person didn’t matter to me. I knew I was over him when I was no longer imagining a future with him.
Moreover, the thought of intimacy didn’t seem appealing anymore. I do not want to kiss him, and I do not want to sleep with him. Just the thought of it seems extremely unappealing and unattractive to me.
You become neutral to their existence
If you are still angry or upset with your ex, you are not over them! You know you have moved on when the negative emotions no longer persist, and you wish them well, just like you would wish so for humanity in general.
They are no longer a topic in your conversations
When you are truly over someone, you no longer bring the past up in your conversations. You stop seeing value in that. You feel happy with where you are in life, and talking about them feels like a waste of time and energy. If you are still talking about what he did or how horrible the relationship was, it is a sign that you have not yet moved on.
You are no longer interested in details about their life
Another sign that you are over your ex is that you are no longer interested in what is happening in their lives. You used to spend hours stalking them on social media and wonder why they left so quickly. Not anymore. They are free to have fun and do anything they want.
Although you don’t hate them, you also don’t give a damn. They are someone who was once a part of your life, and from whom you both gained a lot of knowledge. It only seems sensible to treat them as nonexistent now that the chapter is done.
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